I have been married for over 7 years to a man I am very much in love with. We have 2 children. Ever since our marriage began, my husband has pretty much blamed me for everything bad that happens in our lives, from financial problems to problems with the kids, etc. He says that I have "ruined his life" because I did not do well in my career (he doesn't work right now) and have been pretty unsuccessful but I have a rather severe anxiety disorder that I have to deal with in addition to trying to work full time, go to school and care for the family. I am always trying to please my husband and make him happy but nothing I ever do seems good enough; if I don't have a job then I need to get one but when I have one then I am spending too much time away from home (I only work 40 hrs. a week) - that kind of thing, damned if you do, damned if you don't. My husband claims he LOVES me with all his heart and can be very kind and loving. He is verbally abusive at times, but never physically. I won't divorce because I think it's an easy way out and not good for the kids, so I am in for the long haul. I just wonder if he really loves me, if he even likes me and what I can do. We have tried marriage counseling but it didn't really help. Can anyone offer advice?