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I think my boyfriend is an addicted to Pain Pills..HELP
I have a question and I am looking for some, any kind of help with this. My b/f started doing oxycottin about 3 months ago. It has gotten worse lately though. We fight all the time he is moody and just never in a good mood. He takes prolly 40-80 grams a day. He cuts the 80grams up and takes them through out the day. It hurts me that he is doing this to himself. His mom buys oxycottin off of his one friend. She buys 10-15 at a time each week. I find it hard to believe that his mom doesnt know about his addiction. He got very angry one night when i mentioned it so that his mom could hear. He tells me he does not want me to say anything about him taking the oxycottin and it is none of my bussiness what he does. I dont know what to do?! He used to be the greatest guy in the world. But its all just falling apart now. Ilove him to death, but it is not a healthy situation. Last night he trying throwing me out the car. He also grabed me and pushed me away. he is very distant and when i tryed talking to him about what was going on between us he didnt want to talk about it?? He didnt want me to leave, but yet i dont think he wanted me to stay. It was a very tough situation. I just dont know where to begin or what to do. How do i approach him w/ his problem?
I had to end the relationship with my fiancee because of his addiction to pills, I have strong evidence that he was using a needle to do them. It kills me inside, he was such a good liar, so good at keeping it under wraps until it got so bad...when I tried to talk to him all I got was denial...he refuses to admit he has a problem. I still miss him and think of reaching out to him but he seems happy now that he can do his drugs in the open without hiding them from me. It's tormenting me inside, I think, well what if I should have stayed and tried to help him? Am I being selfish? Then again, I have two young children and I cannot raise them with a drug addict. I'm just so sad :( My heart aches for all of you, and I know how devastating this issue is...
ugh this forum is way old but still i'll add something to it in case anybody finds it. (:
I googled boyfriend addicted to painmedication and came to this site. Reading all the stories here makes me cry because it all sounds so familiar. My boyfriend has been addicted to painmedication for over a year now. Everything has changed because of it. I never really saw the problem because I would do them too sometimes but never had a problem not doing them. For him this was a different story and I now realise that his using has turned him into someone who lies and steals from me. We recently had a baby and I just hoped that this would make it easier for him to change his life but it hasn't. I have gone deep into dept because with my stupidity I have supported his addiction. If he didn't have painpills he would become so mean and angry and depressed that getting more pills and the way he was when he had them was a temporarily solution. That of course eventually was making it worse.
We were going to live in NJ (used to live in Costa Rica but there he could get them too so I had to leave before things got out of hand) but back in NJ I am so naive of course I surrounded himself with people that were all into doing pain medication. And it seemed to me that so many people were. Eventually I told him I can't live like this, I need to build a foundation for my family instead of having my debts grow. It seemed like everytime I did one step forward he pulled me back two steps. Of course he felt bad about everything, he cried and told me he was sorry he'd never do this again, he said: I need help but I don't know what to do, I need someone to help me with this. he's gotten medication to get off the pills but it is too easy to start using again. And I am totally responsible for making things harder for him when I agree for him to get some again thinking it's just this one time, but it never is. I am just so stupid thinking that he doesn't have that bad of a problem, that these pills are not really that bad and you can say no to them if you have to, like I could. I so desperately want to trust him so I just give him my bankcard to get money out not knowing that he was stealing from me and lying about it. I am so heartbroken that my own boyfriend would stab me in the back like this, while I have always been there for him. I trusted him but I know that an addicted just can't be trusted, ever. I finally told him I'd leave him. I moved to holland (where I'm from) with our daughter and told him he could come here if he wants to but only under my conditions. You see here it's just not that easy to get this kind of medication and its not prescribed and used the way it is in the states. Coming here would be like rehad for him, but to be honest if we would've stayed in the US i wouldve been lost not knowing how to stop the problem because it seems like wherever we go there is someone he knows who has them or uses them.
After I found out he took all my money for pills when I came to the US for his brothers wedding and told him it's over He's totally fallen apart realising that he has risked everything great he had in his life for these stupid ******* pills and he hit rock bottem. I never knew how much of a problem they could be for someone but apparantly he is not the only one struggling with this problem. It makes me feel a little better to read here that the stealing an lying is not something he does intentionally but something he does when the drugs takes over.
I really think that rehab is a good option for all of those addicted but this problem seems to get out of hand in the US and how easy is it to quit when you have once been an addict and you'll always have a chance to get in touch with someone who has them or does them. Erase all contacts and start a new life almost seems like the only option.. I do believe that even though you want to just turn your back to the person that treats you this way and say, screw it i don't want anything to do with you. I think It's important you see the problem your bf is struggling with and you CAN help if they allow you to. That person you once knew is still underneath that horrible person he's turned into because of the nasty drugs.
Good luck to all of you, my heart really goes out to everyone struggling with this problem!!
I googled boyfriend addicted to painmedication and came to this site. Reading all the stories here makes me cry because it all sounds so familiar. My boyfriend has been addicted to painmedication for over a year now. Everything has changed because of it. I never really saw the problem because I would do them too sometimes but never had a problem not doing them. For him this was a different story and I now realise that his using has turned him into someone who lies and steals from me. We recently had a baby and I just hoped that this would make it easier for him to change his life but it hasn't. I have gone deep into dept because with my stupidity I have supported his addiction. If he didn't have painpills he would become so mean and angry and depressed that getting more pills and the way he was when he had them was a temporarily solution. That of course eventually was making it worse.
We were going to live in NJ (used to live in Costa Rica but there he could get them too so I had to leave before things got out of hand) but back in NJ I am so naive of course I surrounded himself with people that were all into doing pain medication. And it seemed to me that so many people were. Eventually I told him I can't live like this, I need to build a foundation for my family instead of having my debts grow. It seemed like everytime I did one step forward he pulled me back two steps. Of course he felt bad about everything, he cried and told me he was sorry he'd never do this again, he said: I need help but I don't know what to do, I need someone to help me with this. he's gotten medication to get off the pills but it is too easy to start using again. And I am totally responsible for making things harder for him when I agree for him to get some again thinking it's just this one time, but it never is. I am just so stupid thinking that he doesn't have that bad of a problem, that these pills are not really that bad and you can say no to them if you have to, like I could. I so desperately want to trust him so I just give him my bankcard to get money out not knowing that he was stealing from me and lying about it. I am so heartbroken that my own boyfriend would stab me in the back like this, while I have always been there for him. I trusted him but I know that an addicted just can't be trusted, ever. I finally told him I'd leave him. I moved to holland (where I'm from) with our daughter and told him he could come here if he wants to but only under my conditions. You see here it's just not that easy to get this kind of medication and its not prescribed and used the way it is in the states. Coming here would be like rehad for him, but to be honest if we would've stayed in the US i wouldve been lost not knowing how to stop the problem because it seems like wherever we go there is someone he knows who has them or uses them.
After I found out he took all my money for pills when I came to the US for his brothers wedding and told him it's over He's totally fallen apart realising that he has risked everything great he had in his life for these stupid ******* pills and he hit rock bottem. I never knew how much of a problem they could be for someone but apparantly he is not the only one struggling with this problem. It makes me feel a little better to read here that the stealing an lying is not something he does intentionally but something he does when the drugs takes over.
I really think that rehab is a good option for all of those addicted but this problem seems to get out of hand in the US and how easy is it to quit when you have once been an addict and you'll always have a chance to get in touch with someone who has them or does them. Erase all contacts and start a new life almost seems like the only option.. I do believe that even though you want to just turn your back to the person that treats you this way and say, screw it i don't want anything to do with you. I think It's important you see the problem your bf is struggling with and you CAN help if they allow you to. That person you once knew is still underneath that horrible person he's turned into because of the nasty drugs.
Good luck to all of you, my heart really goes out to everyone struggling with this problem!!
I met this awesome guy and instantly fell in love, but shortly after fallin for him i found out he was addicted to any pill that could get him high. well I fell into his footsteps. I was addicted to methodons for 3months. With in those three months, i only went to school 4 times, visit family twice.... and was high everytime. I went from being 220lbs down to 150lbs. Not healthy. I didn't care what people thought, until I was I realized I hurt the one person that has been there for me since day one, my mom.
I believe it takes someone that means so much to leave your life to realize what has happen. I was a mommys girl, but when my mom found out, she told me she'd never talk to me until I get sober. So instead of having the support from the boyfriend, I did it on my own. I signed up for school, started to show up to work, and called family daily.
The hardest part is being dope sick and having the heart ache of having to rebuild your relationships with everyone you were close to.
It took a lot of time after that to realize I was better off without him. He now knows that he is missing out on a wonderful girl that loved him. But couldn't bring himself to love anyone but the drugs.
I suggest that you try to leave or atleast talk to someone that he is close to. Try to get his mom to notice his behavior, and DONT BE ALONE WITH HIM!!!!
When I was with him when I was sober, I had knifes thrown at me, held to my throat, thrown out of a car, pushed down the stairs, choked, raped, and everything esle.
I feel bad for all the good people out there that love those who hurt them. But I understand how hard it is to fall out of love with someone you use to know!
Good luck. Keep your head up. Don't let it bring you down. I'm sure you are a great girl that deserves an awesome guy who will pick you over and kind of pills.
I believe it takes someone that means so much to leave your life to realize what has happen. I was a mommys girl, but when my mom found out, she told me she'd never talk to me until I get sober. So instead of having the support from the boyfriend, I did it on my own. I signed up for school, started to show up to work, and called family daily.
The hardest part is being dope sick and having the heart ache of having to rebuild your relationships with everyone you were close to.
It took a lot of time after that to realize I was better off without him. He now knows that he is missing out on a wonderful girl that loved him. But couldn't bring himself to love anyone but the drugs.
I suggest that you try to leave or atleast talk to someone that he is close to. Try to get his mom to notice his behavior, and DONT BE ALONE WITH HIM!!!!
When I was with him when I was sober, I had knifes thrown at me, held to my throat, thrown out of a car, pushed down the stairs, choked, raped, and everything esle.
I feel bad for all the good people out there that love those who hurt them. But I understand how hard it is to fall out of love with someone you use to know!
Good luck. Keep your head up. Don't let it bring you down. I'm sure you are a great girl that deserves an awesome guy who will pick you over and kind of pills.
My boyfriend said he cheated on me with drugs but never with another girl. What should I believe? He got caught with pills and went to jail for a month and now he's at a program for a year court ordered and claims he still loves me and wants to be with me when he gets out. I always thought he was cheating on me. I thought it was drugs too. I'm confused not sure weather to leave him or help him. I honestly think if I leave him while he's getting help he would turn back to drugs or do something crazy. How can I believe him when he said he only cheated on me with drugs never with another girl. And should I stick by someone who claims to be so in love with me but yet lied soo much about what he was doing behind my back.
wow i just typed so much and lost it but to make a long story short im am so f&ced but this drug i really thing the people that invented it need to die its takin my woman away from me and i do not like it maybe ill tell u all about it again one day but 4 now i wasted enough time and effort on this problum and i think its just time too move on even though it hurts to leave someone u have been with 4 14 years i think its time to say goodbye but i do love u sooooooooooooo soooooooooooo very much but i can never ever have her back baby im sorry i do love u but 4 our kids sake i must part and it is commin very very soon it hurts soooo soooo bad 4 me to just sit here and watch u just slip into ur noddin state u just dont realize what u r doin to us and right now i really dont think that u care at all except were u r gettin ur next fix all cause of amy morgan introducing u to this very very bad drug that is so so very hard to get off of and its like u just dont wanna go threw it to get clean and move on with our lives this is so ****** i thought that i made u happy but doin a pill makes u happier so i think i got to give UP
My boyfriend recently told me the verysame thing.
We broke up a few days ago because i feel like he dosent care we lost our baby in nov at 9 weeks n weren't dating when I had found out and told him when it was to late.
We got bck together and seemed like things just went down hill after tht we got more distant he didn't wan to talk about nething as far a graduation from hs in two weeks I hve a town house in a diff town tht he is supposed to go to enrolled in college tht hr is supposed to go to... But we can't talk about nething.
He dosent wan to talk about the baby about us about college about exam he needs to take about college advising and we were drifting so I ended it.
Then when I took him back he came over last night and we went for a drive to talk.
He told me he had been taking pills in large quantities ever since we lost the baby.
Tht he has scary thought but he knws he won't go through w them.
He says he needs a friend and I did the only thing I knew to and said I was here for him.
He told me he wants to quit.
We have been together for 5 yrs n he has nvr hurt me nvr done nething wrong by me except for some vocal normal relationship fights.
He mentioned he actually considered" throwingur headinto the wall, pushing me against the wall and chockin you out" I made him so mad one day.
N went home and cried about it.
He is against abuse to woman an actually effectivly got one of our friends out of a situation like tht.
I had no idea tht for 8 months he had been poppin pills allhe told me was bars.
Then I noticed he had beer in his truck and had been drinkin all day and my friend had just rolled his truck Friday bc he fell asleep and was drinking.
I told him I didn't feel xomofrtable w Him driving and wantedhim to stay.
We settled on me forcin him to give up the last two beers he had and dumping them out while he vises me from his truck drivers seat the whole time.
As I I was burning money.
I love him and he loves me.
He promised on our childs life he will quit I just want to knw whAt I should prepare myself for in the weeks to come during his quitting process.
What I should do or say?
Or if I need to do nething other the. What I already have.
We broke up a few days ago because i feel like he dosent care we lost our baby in nov at 9 weeks n weren't dating when I had found out and told him when it was to late.
We got bck together and seemed like things just went down hill after tht we got more distant he didn't wan to talk about nething as far a graduation from hs in two weeks I hve a town house in a diff town tht he is supposed to go to enrolled in college tht hr is supposed to go to... But we can't talk about nething.
He dosent wan to talk about the baby about us about college about exam he needs to take about college advising and we were drifting so I ended it.
Then when I took him back he came over last night and we went for a drive to talk.
He told me he had been taking pills in large quantities ever since we lost the baby.
Tht he has scary thought but he knws he won't go through w them.
He says he needs a friend and I did the only thing I knew to and said I was here for him.
He told me he wants to quit.
We have been together for 5 yrs n he has nvr hurt me nvr done nething wrong by me except for some vocal normal relationship fights.
He mentioned he actually considered" throwingur headinto the wall, pushing me against the wall and chockin you out" I made him so mad one day.
N went home and cried about it.
He is against abuse to woman an actually effectivly got one of our friends out of a situation like tht.
I had no idea tht for 8 months he had been poppin pills allhe told me was bars.
Then I noticed he had beer in his truck and had been drinkin all day and my friend had just rolled his truck Friday bc he fell asleep and was drinking.
I told him I didn't feel xomofrtable w Him driving and wantedhim to stay.
We settled on me forcin him to give up the last two beers he had and dumping them out while he vises me from his truck drivers seat the whole time.
As I I was burning money.
I love him and he loves me.
He promised on our childs life he will quit I just want to knw whAt I should prepare myself for in the weeks to come during his quitting process.
What I should do or say?
Or if I need to do nething other the. What I already have.
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