If you don't trust what she says or who she is then why continue the friendship? Friendships aren't a must or have-to-do thing. If you are constantly scrutinizing her then you really don't have a friendship. I can't see how this is a close friendship when you have to scrutinize her. You may have known her for 5 years, but this isn't what I consider a close friendship. I don't grill close friends.
You should probably fade the interaction out with her and move on. Don't confront her.
You are correct....this isn't healthy for you both.
Lots of people embellish a little bit. But its intrusive and inappropriate for you to ask for screen shots or profiles of her friends. Are you competitive with her? I don't personally like phonies but most are just insecure and trying to fit in or feel more exciting than they believe they really are. This isn't a reason to dislike them. It would make me sad for a friend to do that or feel they need to. So perhaps you aren't a great friend to her either?
No one likes to be lied to. I agree. But dig deeper for the why and see if you can muster any compassion. good luck
I think that you are angry that someone that you believe to love "as a very close friend" is lying to you consistently, and I understand completely your feelings of being betrayed. Life is short, and to feel that you must "scrutinize" the conversations with them as you are, is a waste of time. I do think it would be wise to understand that if your friend is lying, then she is a very unfortunate soul and having a hard time. It would be good for you if you could sincerely find compassion for those insecure enough to have to lie to appear that they are achieving more than what they are in life. Ironically, it is these tests in our lives that mould and form us into our adult selves. Being able to show compassion for a long term friend , who is now displaying weakness, gives your life an additional measure of success. If you are able to feel compassion (feel sorry for them) you are taking a bad situation and making something good of it. By you learning how to have true love and compassion for a weaker person (whether you've known them for five years or five minutes) is building positive character traits. Since you categorize your friendship as being "close" , i think you should make a point of fostering other close relationships in your life, that you can feel that you can trust, and you deserve honest, close friendships with as many as you can possibly make. So try to have true compassion, pray God that your friend is less insecure, and stops lying if that's what's she's doing. If you WANT to spend time with your friend, don't ask questions about her making stuff up (if that's what she's doing). Change the subject (like it doesn't matter) if you can enjoy some time in the moment doing things you both enjoy and making your own memories do so, as long as you're enjoying yourself.
Are you planning on going to college or university yourself? Many long term friendships are made when in college/university and I pray that you experiencing a lovely college life for yourself. Life for you can be very interesting and varied if you choose to attend college. Look forward to the good times to be had - they're just around the corner. My son has so many friends from college from every corner of the world, and has traveled extensively with many of them (and we're by no means wealthy). He's always kept a part time job to pay for trips to Ireland , Japan, France, Italy, Cuba, Spain, You get the picture. Instead of being angry because someone you know is making up an interesting life, take that focus and energy and use it to get yourself into the best position you can as you leave high school and possibly enter the college life, or work place so that you can , for real, enjoy an interesting life yourself.
Yeah, feel sorry for those that have to lie to make themselves feel better about themselves. Don't bother to spend too much of your valuable time on fibs when you could be , perhaps, serving coffee and getting used to customer service (that will look good on your resume).
Onward and Upward... Thanks for posting.