I had been going out with Paul for a year now. He's 37 and I am 39 years old. He's a musician and I am someone who enjoys acting as a hobby (community theater), but it's not how I earn my living nor do I ever want to be an actor. I do it for the fun of it and creative challenge.
Back in January I had my very first show since I have been with Paul. He didn't come to see me, even though I have been to see 4 of his shows. I was very disappointed and told him so. He became indignant and said that he would NOT apologize since he was supposed to have plans that night anyway. I tried to let it go.
When my birthday came a few weeks ago I really wanted to see a particular Broadway play but he told me that he didn't want to spend more than $100 on tickets (even though for his birthday I spent so much money on his presents and treated him like a king!).
Cut to two weeks ago. I called him one night in tears after hearing some devastating news about a relative. He told me that he was too busy cleaning his house to let me come over. I begged him to just let me stay over and just lay on his couch - I didn't want to be alone and needed a shoulder to cry on. He refused me a second time.
I did not speak with him for 4 days and when I finally did he broke up with me. He told me that I was not cultured enough for him, I wasn't feminine enough, and that we had nothing in common other than going hiking and white water rafting! He also said that he has always felt that women/relationships get in the way of his spiritual and personal growth - and that I had been using him all of this time!!!
Any advice at all would be appreciated. I feel hurt, heartbroken and insulted by these false accusations.