i feel like going to this mand house, punching him in the face and telling him to eff off, if my boyfriend ever treated me like that he'd be out the door right then and there!!!!
I feel bad for your friend but you did the right thing. There is really nothing else you can do, you opened up your house to her and have given all the advice you can. It's up to her if she wants to be blind or if she wants to do something to change the situation.
My only question is, how can you let this a**hole in your house? Even if he's friends with the hubby(why i dunno lol) I wouldn't have been able to see him knowing all the **** he's putting your friend through. I think you should stay away from both of them as they are bringing unneeded high school drama around both you and your husband.
We all wake up at some point, right? I've been in a situation like that before too and it took me five years to open my eyes and see that I deserved better- thank God no kids came out of it. But she has been treated bad her entire life! I wonder if she feels comfortable being treated like that, like she feels like that's what love is supposed to be. I just try and imply that what me and my husband have is true love and what she has is NOT love. She sees us together and wishes he treats her the way my husband treats me, but he's selfish and that won't happen. I feel like she will only find that in someone else that truly loves her for who she is and not the size of her body or the fact that she doesn't have a college degree (which he gets on her for despite not having one of his own and being 6 years her senior). I tell her how special she is and my husband tells her that too and I thought hearing it from another man who knows her might open her eyes, but she wants to hear it from her husband and he's never going to be satisfied with her. It's sad, but hopefully she will see the truth. Maybe staying with us for awhile will give her the strength to get to know herself again, especially since I told her that this is her last chance. I really wish he didn't ruin our fun all the time. I'll keep you posted.
Jojo
Its easier to just say nothing, I know cause I was in a bad relationship where my fella was cheating and when any of my friends said to leaving him, hes no good, I NEVER listened! in the end they just stopped until I realised myself how bad it was, and all the lies I fell for! Make me feel like a right fool! We ended it and its only now I see how stupid I was in the relationship! No matter how many times I was told by friends and Family I wouldn't listen! But now I know what they were saying!
Eventually she will see, and all you need to do is be there when she does!!
I think that you have made the right decision. jo
How offensive that this guy would dare not only accept the lasagna, while in the process of reconciliation with his wife, but lie to lie right to her face. He is dishonest, deceitful, manipulative, adulterer, opportunitist, and I can go on and on! I feel sorry for her, because, he's not going to change and she's a fool to put up with his cr**p.
He is also making you both accomplices of his lies, so if she were to find out that while she was with you and your husband, you knew about the affair and lasagna and his lie and said nothing, you both would be just as dishonest and deceitful for covering for him and not saying anything. He has put you both in a very bad position and it shows that he is insensitive to both of you also!
Before this is all over sith, pull him aside and tell him that you and your husband will never again,be put in a situation of dishonesty or deceipt to lie to anyone for him and that as a result you will put distance between the relationship.
As I said in my earlier post, all you can do is be their for her, but when you are put in situations where you will be not only dragged into the drama, but now cover up lies, then it's time to step back and out.
Yeh! Other people put you in the middle of all their drama and then tell you to not tell. I hate that! Then they just want you to listen, not give advice or anything like that! It is a bad place to be. I find myself in a similar situation as we speak and it is tearing me apart. The only thing I can do and you too is back off and hope all works out with the least amount of collateral damage! My heart goes out to ya!