INTER_RACIAL DATING

[Chitambo]

I met this guy on line who is based in uk,am an african woman and his sweden!!the conversation has been so good we talk a lot and the communication is good!!ihave never believed in on_line dating and I never thought that I would like someone. As much as I like him!a few days ago he asked me to be his soul mate and I was so thrilled.. A lot of guys online that I have chatted with have always ask me for nude pics and I find that awkward but he seems different from the others! Am afraid to give it a chance because have never heard an stories of an online relationship working not to talk of a black african woman and a white guy!please help what should I do,I really like this guy

[Londres70]

Hon, take a deep breath and go for it.  This man sounds decent.  Any man presenting a woman to his mother is serious in my opinion.  

If he is willing to come to your country to visit you that says a lot.  

Get to know each other and have fun.  Don't get caught up in the negative "what ifs."  Do use caution and discretion though.

Like I stated my sister met her husband online and now they are doing just fine.  I love my brother-in-law and he is a wonderful part of our family.

[Chitambo]

Talking to him is one thing but talking to his mother is another thing..

[Chitambo]

Yes we have been talking about meting and he wants to come to my country soon..am anxious about him coming here..he wants us to skyp with his mother..am worried yes

[Nighthawk61]

I think that an interracial match could be a really fun and exciting life. You know what they say about opposites attracting? Being a soul mate for one guy, and a soul mate for another could be two entirely different things. Are you talking about meeting ?

[Londres70]

Keep us posted.  I am really interested in how this will turn out for you.

[Chitambo]

Thank you very much ladies for the wonderful advice...

[Londres70]

I will is supposed to be It will

[Londres70]

My sister met her husband online and he is an African, so it is possible this could work, however, do make sure your feelings for each other are not solely based on any fantasy.  In other words, an online relationship is not the same as having a relationship in real life.

Secondly, is this Swedish guy living in the UK or in his mother country Sweden?  I am assuming you are living in Africa?  Not to be negative, but the tone at this time in Europe isn't positive in regards to people immigrating/migrating to Europe.  We have had an influx of refugees and this has HUGELY influenced the mindset of some Europeans in regards to foreigners especially ones of darker skin coming from third world countries.  I am saying this so that there is NO surprise that you MAY, not will, have problems with people accepting you here especially if you a black African woman with a white, Swedish man.  To add, Sweden isn't a country known to be overly tolerant to people of color, however, the UK is.  

Thirdly, the cultural differences may be too great for you two.  

Fourthly, how long have you been chatting online with this guy?  My concern is that he is already talking about being soulmates and he has never met you in person?  I am not saying this can't be real, but just be cautious.

Agree AB.  You two need to meet in person and decide if this is really real and go from there.  Either you go to him or he comes to you.  If you decide to visit him I am not sure how easy it will be for you to get a visa.  I will probably be easier for him to come to your country.

[AnnieBrooke]

Get the money together and go see him, or have him come see you.  It's the only way to tell if it's just a fantasy.