Im bi, 16 and need advice

[auziez]

uhm yea, so this is kind of weird to ask but i need advice! haha..
just so you all know i am not openly bi to the world, everyone knows me as straight
Im just wondering how you tell if another guy is interested in you or guys. I want to know cause ive just recently started likeing a friend that ive had for a long time..
anyways, im attracted to him so i started thinking of ways that i can find out if hes interested and i need help or something to help me understand or put myself into a situation where we both will be in the spotlight to decide. uhm.
if you want to know uhm hes in most of my classes, we have never went to eachothers houses, but we did hang outside of school once or twice, uhm, i never pursued to ask him to come over or vice versa. but he sometimes does gay things and is emotional at times. i never really considered him as a real friend cuz we dont hang as much but then the other day he said something like "youve been my friend for so long" or somthin so ill just go with it cuz i dont mind him.

anyways, how exactly do i do this? ive contemplated many things like just touching him in the locker room and sseeing where it goes. or just asking to go over to his place (my place has liek 7 ppl in the house soo...) and we get drunk or something. Any advice? :) thanks

[auziez]

wel  its more like friends with benefits that im looking for, im not really sure about if i should let the public know that im bi just yet, though right now im not wanting to, im not exactly interested really with having a kind of relationship youd see a guy and a girl have (getting married with a guy, or dating..) its more like me with a good friend that we can do stuff if we wanted to, and i kind of want to and i wanted to know how to pursue it without making things over-bord.
i will think aobut what i shud do.
thank you both for your help, Ill post up results when i do something :)
and if you have any more advice id gladly take it

[p123p456]

I do not suggest trying to touch him or getting him drunk. Trying to make a move drunk can be bad (angry drunks for example). You might ask him about his previous relationships. If he hasn't had any, ask him why. Try pointing out some cute girl you have in class and see how he responds. I also agree with Annie with bringing up gay celebrities or classmates. However, are you trying to pursue a relationship with this gay? If you are not openly bisexual then are you planning on coming out with this?

Good luck, hope it works out!

[AnnieBrooke]

I'd cue in to what he says, not trying to touch him, in case he in fact is just a sensitive new-age guy who happens to be straight.  You could mention a topic about a gay person who is well known or a story about gay teens who want to go to the prom or something, and see what he says about it.  If he acts indignant or personally upset about some unfair thing that happened to a guy who is gay, then you could simply ask (and do it casually, not with portent and meaning), "Are you bi or gay?"  Of course, if he is not, just say, "Oh," and drop the subject.  The conversation could really be pretty smooth, and not ruffle the friendship.  Good luck.