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Impulsive Behavior?
Recently I dated someone with extreme political views. She dumped me after one month for someone she met on the internet and has been skyping and communicating with online for only 3 weeks. She has decided to enter a relationship with him, go to Ireland, sight unseen, and spend time with him. She also added that her mother was a diagnosed schizophrenic and her son has recently been diagnosed with Bipolar I disorder. Naturally, I feel manipulated but am also gravely concerned for her. I am not a mental health expert but her behavior seems extremely impulsive and irrational, not to mention a little needy. Any suggestions as to what she might be un-diagnosed with?
Thanks. I am concerned for her.
Thanks. I am concerned for her.
Ditto all the above.
I don't think You should feel "dumped" or even "manipulated" after only one month. One month is not enough time to know much about one another EXCEPT You did quickly learn something very valuable about this Girl - and that is - You wouldn't want to be looking for something permanent in one who was so quick to "flit" away under the circumstances You describe. I think You should feel good/fortunate to have learned this so early, BEFORE You had more time/more feeling invested. ONE MONTH - is ONLY 4 weeks, ONLY 30 days. My advice: Count Your Blessings that You were not deeply invested when this occured so soon after meeting Her.
Good Luck
I don't think You should feel "dumped" or even "manipulated" after only one month. One month is not enough time to know much about one another EXCEPT You did quickly learn something very valuable about this Girl - and that is - You wouldn't want to be looking for something permanent in one who was so quick to "flit" away under the circumstances You describe. I think You should feel good/fortunate to have learned this so early, BEFORE You had more time/more feeling invested. ONE MONTH - is ONLY 4 weeks, ONLY 30 days. My advice: Count Your Blessings that You were not deeply invested when this occured so soon after meeting Her.
Good Luck
As far as what she is "undiagnosed with", big deal.... Not your responsibility, and it sounds as if she's made her mind up. I can appreciate your concern, but proper diagnosis is not going to bring her back around to you.
This is a perfect time for you to get your boat back in order and sail to calmer seas. It stinks to feel manipulated and it ***** to get dumped, but that isn't the end of the world. (Not to make light of your situation, but if she is this quick to up and run, this is probably a blessing in disguise.) You can only control you and right now that is all you need to be concerned with.
This is a perfect time for you to get your boat back in order and sail to calmer seas. It stinks to feel manipulated and it ***** to get dumped, but that isn't the end of the world. (Not to make light of your situation, but if she is this quick to up and run, this is probably a blessing in disguise.) You can only control you and right now that is all you need to be concerned with.
Agree with NG and Panda.
I wouldn't worry about what her diagnosis is or what she is doing. She is an adult and can do as she wants. Doesn't mean she is necessarily suffering from any "mental illness."
To add.... no one in this forum can give a psych diagnosis; that can't be done over the internet.
I would assume let her and her situation "drift away" especially since you were "dumped" and feel "manipulated." Wish her the best and move on.
Sounds like she did you a favor.
I wouldn't worry about what her diagnosis is or what she is doing. She is an adult and can do as she wants. Doesn't mean she is necessarily suffering from any "mental illness."
To add.... no one in this forum can give a psych diagnosis; that can't be done over the internet.
I would assume let her and her situation "drift away" especially since you were "dumped" and feel "manipulated." Wish her the best and move on.
Sounds like she did you a favor.
Unfortunately, there isn't much you can do. She's going to do what she's going to do. It's nice of you to be concerned, but your hands are tied on this one.
Nothing wrong with telling her you're worried for her safety, and tell her to be cautious. That's about it.
You'd be wise to move on with your life. Good luck!
Nothing wrong with telling her you're worried for her safety, and tell her to be cautious. That's about it.
You'd be wise to move on with your life. Good luck!
I also think she should go and see the world but dont readily accept her back if she comes crawing home or asks you to wire her some money.
Just walk away.
Just walk away.
I don't know and will probably will never know but that kind of risk taking behavior does not seem "adventurous" and devil may care to me, especially as it is happening within a 30 day period. Thank you for your comments.
If she feels she has a compulsive or mental health issue she would like to discuss online on Medhelp, please let her know about the site. Psychiatry should be left to professionals in person with patients who seek their help. If she is indicating to you that she would like a mental evaluation by a professional, I hope you will find a competent psychiatrist in your area you could recommend to her.
Well, one month only to find out this may have been a bad idea is a good thing!
She is going to do what she wants no matter what you think or try to do...if she is determined to make this decision how will you convince her otherwise...and do you want to get involved in a chaotic situation?
You may be better off, although I understand your concern...and if there is mental health issues as you suspect, then no one is going to convince her or anyone to get "diagnosed" with anything. Generally, people with mental health problems, diagnosed or otherwise, don't have a lot of impulse control and have some trouble with reason and clear thinking, as you have stated, so they are prone to making these kinds of rash decisions, which to them, are quite reasonable but to others seem foolish.
There are many people who just live life on the edge, making decisions on the spur of the moment and with little thought for consequences but with a sense of adventure and enjoy the risks. It does not necessarily mean they are suffering from a mental illness. That may be their nature.
How will you ever know?
Take care of yourself...C
She is going to do what she wants no matter what you think or try to do...if she is determined to make this decision how will you convince her otherwise...and do you want to get involved in a chaotic situation?
You may be better off, although I understand your concern...and if there is mental health issues as you suspect, then no one is going to convince her or anyone to get "diagnosed" with anything. Generally, people with mental health problems, diagnosed or otherwise, don't have a lot of impulse control and have some trouble with reason and clear thinking, as you have stated, so they are prone to making these kinds of rash decisions, which to them, are quite reasonable but to others seem foolish.
There are many people who just live life on the edge, making decisions on the spur of the moment and with little thought for consequences but with a sense of adventure and enjoy the risks. It does not necessarily mean they are suffering from a mental illness. That may be their nature.
How will you ever know?
Take care of yourself...C
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