Can I ask if you suspected at all that he was unavailable? Was he away in Iraq for the majority of your relationship? I'm sorry you had to experience that, and I don't think it's your fault at all since you were an unwilling party in all of his lies and betrayal. I just find it odd that you didn't know about anything. Why I say that is because usually when you date someone, they bring you around their family and friends and are available on the weekends. When someone has a family and a wife and you are the other person, they must not have been very available. Did you meet his friends or family? Did you hang out with him frequently or was he only available to you when it was convenient for him? Did he go hours or days without talking to you? Or not pick up your calls all the time? I just wanted to know how 2 years of this happened and you didn't pick up on anything odd. Again, it's nothing against you, I feel sorry that you had to go through that. I'm glad you were able to get away though.
awww, sad story but i'm so happy for you for being strong enough to leave him and not look back. Good for you for being so level headed about this and doing whats best for yourself.
Shame on him, shame on all men and women who play with married partners, or who are married and cheat.
Lets hear it for people who have enough respect for themselves and others to walk away from these manipulators!!!!!!
YAY YOU!!!!!!!~
I have been reading all the advice about being involved with a married man or the mistress is a home wrecker and ****, but what about those who get involved with a married man and don’t know he is married?
That situation happened to me and I hadn’t a clue he was married and I was with him 2 years, if it had not been for friends reunited I would never of know either, when I did find out you can imagine how I felt and to add to the heartache I had a call from his wife informing me she knew from day one about us as she hacked into his email account and kept tags on us that way but yet did nothing but sit back for some reason which I will never get answers, for the last 9 months my life has been tuned upside down and trying to move on which is very hard when you get calls of him while he is in Iraq serving for 4 months trying to make amends, little does he know when I did cut ties with him I was also pregnant and I have just had my first child Archie which he knows nothing about and never will.
The moral of the story is from my experience those married men who play away will always play away as a leopard never changes it spots and am thankful I had the courage to walk away with some self dignity and don’t have to put up with the mental head games is he or isn’t he cheating on me again.
Tiggs :)
A year of your life is gone because of your being involved with a man who isn't worth the paper his phone number is printed on.
I guess you could be glad that it wasn't 5 years, or 10 years, or whatever, but this is just pathetic. Walk away from this now. If you can't do it alone, get a therapist to help extract you from this sad situation - which will only turn out badly for you. What a shame.
As a man I'll tell you that it matters not why anyone cheats what matters is that he/she did. No-one can help who they "fall" in love with but what they m/f should do if they find out the other is married happily or not is to step off and deal with the emotion the best you can. It's said that time will heal all wounds so give it time.
oh, I didn't read down that far.