Hi G.. I was just wondering, do you enjoy him/love him? You do not mention your feelings for him; what you share emotionally. If you do love him, I'd say stay, at least a bit more. You are only 22, and he is only 27; he may have said I want to spend the rest of my life with you, and I think he did mean it, BUT that doesn't mean he MEANT it has to be, getting married, or engaged. Some are still not sure in their 20's , on marriage. If you enjoy each other's friendship or love, I don't think a 'ring' MUST bind that; it's already there.. do you know what I mean? I think it is hard or tricky when someone says 'I need to know this/that in our future...' it makes one feel a 'timeline' of sorts, or like, 'if you don't marry me, then, bye'.. I'm not saying YOU are doing that, I just think if you settle into really just enjoying him, things will be less 'pressure', for you and him. I do feel for you that his mom is not showing a positive aura for your own background or education, etc. That is kind of ignorant in my opinion. Who really cares anyway what she thinks. The key is, maybe ask, 'Would you 'ever' see yourself in marriage?'' If he says no, and that is a huge thing to you, then maybe start to part ways, while possibly still remaining friends. But, I don't think he'd say he'd 'ever' not see marriage in your future. You sound like a great girl, and just take things ONE day at a time. I envy you, b/c I am 32, and never even had an actual bf; I have extreme anxiety w/men and relationships. I work on it everyday- so just being in the moment and really thinking if you TRULY love him even if you don't have 'answers ' for the future, is a key factor to your joy.
Well i cant really give u answer all i can say is i went through the same thing with my husband im white hes white but im not that religious but if i waa it would be christian and his family is jovoah witnesses so the only way we could be together is if i became that or he wasnt one when we gor serious he chosee me and still to this day its the same we r married . And his family is now trying to get us in that religion and we still agree that we dont want that i guess what im trying to say is sometimes when u know its the one they will do what they have to be there. I just got lucky who knows u might as well . But i agree with the above post u should defintly ask him what he wants.
thank you very much!! Yes I love him very much. Enough to where it drives me crazy to be apart from him. Sometimes i worry that I am judging things poorly because he is my first intimate relationship(1 relationship period!) . He does want to stay together, but he seems to be completely obsessed with money! He worries tha I want a ridiculous break the bank ring, paying for grad school, paying student loans, etc. Me telling him that he doesn't have to support me, do fancy vacations, or get an expensive ring doesn't seem to assuage his worries :( i probably worry 2much
Hi, him saying "why do you ever think he wants to marry you' is an important statement and shows that part of him resolving issues is the threat of breaking up. I feel he is very controlling and will have you living HIS life not YOURS. If you dont mind giving up your life for his then stay but if you want to live your life to the fullest then find someone who will let you.
You've been dating for three years. I think that if he's serious about you he would ask you to marry him, and he would give you a ring, and make it very clear to his parents that you are to be his wife. The thing is this, is he planning on living with his parents through graduate school? and there would be no place for you in their home?