I met this girl one night and we hit it off pretty well. Probably too well because we later had unprotected sex.
This was around December 10. I was at college then and then went on winter break until around January 10. During that time, I began to realize that I didn't really love her the way I should and I began to distance myself from her around a week after we first met. Around December 17, she told me that she was late and that it was probably nothing. A couple days later, she said she took a test on the 17th (the day she told me she was late) that told her she was pregnant but didn't want to tell me immediately. I haven't seen the test and it's been a month and I can't tell if she is showing yet.
If she is pregnant, I want to help her make the right decision. I believe that decision is abortion. She has heart problems and a very small body (about 100 lbs) along with psychological issues and I don't think carrying to term would be good for her. As for me, I am a broke college student who isn't emotionally or financially ready to be a father.
Since she told me she was pregnant, she has lied about getting an abortion...twice. Obviously, I can't trust her after lying about something this big, twice. Because I want to help her as much as I can, I keep getting sucked in. I want to be her friend but she only wants me romantically stating that we've "crossed a line." I've told her that I don't we should date because it would be toxic because we don't know each other well enough for a relationship, hence starting at friendship.
I found out she has been in an abusive relationship previously with her last boyfriend. When I talk to her, I have to be very sensitive to her because she will lose her **** if I say anything that she doesn't like. She has threatened to sue me (her dad is some type of lawyer) several times when she is upset but when she calms down, she says she would never do that.
I guess I'm really scared that she is actually pregnant and will pursue legal action against me. I understand that fathers have pretty much zero rights in this cases like this which is another thing that scares me. She doesn't want to do an abortion because it is ethically wrong but is an atheist and anthropologist. We've had some philosophical discussions on life and agree on pretty much every topic.
What should I do to find out if she is lying? What should I do if she isn't? Keep in mind that she will freak out if I undermine whatever trust we have left.