Is my personality abnormal?

[SashaBearX]

I was dating this guy for about 4 years that I deeply loved and was very physically and sexually attracted to. However I noticed that I am NOT the romantic type. I had a hard time being "flirty" and could not fathom using pet names such as "babe" or "baby". His name was always just "Michael". This guy definitely is the romantic type and always used pet names and was really sweet to me. I loved it and he never seemed to mind that I was nonchalant and not verbally affectionate. My way of flirting was insulting or teasing him, of course without crossing boundaries. He reciprocated the teasing because he knew that was how I was. Unfortunately just shy of a year ago we broke up because he moved 15 hours away and is going into the service. Since that relationship I am rarely physically attracted/attracted to guys being more than friends. I don't really like being touched unless I'm physically attracted to a guy, which is rare. I have little to no interest in being in a relationship or engaging in sexual activity with anyone. I'm content with being alone and am mostly introverted. My parents sometimes get a little frustrated with me because when I come home from work or school I don't feel the urge to hug or kiss them though I do love my parents. I don't care what people think of me, I'm a very logical person, I don't base my decisions off emotions and I just try to make sense of things. I've been told by one of my very good friends that I over think and analyze everything which I realized is true. I am very straightforward and that can come off as harsh or mean but sometimes I am unsure of how to "sugarcoat" my opinions or thoughts. What does all of this mean? Does it mean anything or is this just the way that I am. I definitely am not unhappy with who I am I just wish I could be a little more passionate and affectionate.

[Nighthawk61]

You've asked the question "what does all this mean?" and you've also said that you'd like to be a little more passionate and affectionate. I really think it's a good suggestion from SM that you talk to a therapist.  You mentioned that you live with your folks, and they're not going to be around forever, so you might want to see if you can find yourself happy making plans to have a special person in your life. As we grow older, it's so nice to have friendship with a partner. I hope you find this as well. While your long term relationship was with an affectionate man,there are many men that are not as affectionate  and may feel the same as you do about pet names etc.

One thing though, you said that you enjoyed the pet names, and part of loving someone is to learn to give to them, what you accept from them. So a therapist may be able to help your following through with reciprocation. Even with your folks. It sounds like if they want your hugs and kisses, that you were shown that sort of love as a kid.

Did your folks give you hugs, or say they love you when you were growing up. Did you have anything happen in your life that you think could be a reason as to why you are less than "passionate or affectionate"?  

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Well, we are all different.  That's true.  And if you are content and happy, then this path in life is right for you.  Some people need the human connection and I suspect you get it 'somewhere' through a relative, friends, etc.  But it is what it is.  You don't mind being single and sound to prefer it.  I'd rather be that way than the type who is constantly seeking to be 'with' someone and falls in love after 2 seconds.  But if you find yourself being lonely when you are so unattached, then I'd see a therapist to discuss it.  Otherwise, it doesn't sound like a problem to you so it shouldn't be for anyone else.  good luck