Is this girl tricking me about being pregnant to keep me around?

[BryceeJ]

There' this girl i met , she was very pretty and nice. We got along pretty well and became good friends but she would continously bring up how she missed her ex. She would text me about it and put multiple sad quotes on her facebook. Though she no longer dated him, she said they had sex often still. After talking for a few months she invited me over. Being a guy i saw it as a great oppertunity. Being the extra protective type i peed at home hoping to rid myself of any sperm possibly in my precum. Eventually i showed up at her house and we had sex. I used a condom and even pulled out before i came. After that i drove home and everything was great, but as time passed we slowly stopped talking. After about 2 weeks she texts me asking why we no longer talk, i felt bad and we had a small conversation. But the next day she texts me saying she's a week late. I continued to tell her that theres no way since no sperm touched her, but she would continously say that she thinks she still could be and anything is possible. Well eventually she took a test and sent me a picture, it was 1 line with another shadowy grey line. She claimed it probably meant positive but after doing research i feel theres a high chance its an evaporation line. Well we talked and she says she will take care of it but she keeps bringing it up that she will take care of it like she wants credit. Well soon after she texts me asking me to come over to her house again, but i refuse because of the situation and how stressful it is. She keeps saying it shouldnt matter but it does matter atleast for me. Please tell me your thoughts and if you think she may be tricking me for attention?

[AnnieBrooke]

Unless she comes at you and says she is certainly pregnant and wants you to pay child support, I would try not to be frightened.  (If she does, you will of course ask for a DNA test when the baby is born.)  But it really doesn't sound like it is going to reach that point; it sounds like you took the proper precautions (sexually.  Morally, ehh, not so much.)  

Being male is not an excuse for taking advantage of someone you knew was sad and vulnerable and then trying to put distance between yourself once you got yours.  "Being a guy I saw this as a great opportunity" says you only looked as far as the possibility of your own gratification.  No matter how pleased a "guy" might be for the chance to take advantage of someone else, that is not what being a man is about.  A man goes through life trying to behave in an admirable way, at least to live up to standards he himself finds impressive.

Please don't compound things by pretending to her or to yourself that the only reason you are staying away is the potential-pregnancy drama.  It isn't going to cost you to man up and write her a note telling her you are sorry you took advantage of the situation when she was sad and lonely.  

[specialmom]

Hm.  Well, you used protection.  This makes the liklihood that she really is pregnant by you less so.  Why would she say she is pregnant by you?  Three reasons come to mind----  first, she's crazy or wants to drive you crazy.  Second, she's pregnant by someone else and needs a baby daddy.  Or, she really is pregnant.  With that in mind, which do YOU think it is?  

Well, there is an easy remedy to this.  Two options----  buy a home pregnancy test yourself, head over and ask her to take it with you there.  OR two, tell her you would like to go to the doctor with her.  

If it turns out she IS pregnant, you'll be on the hook until that baby is born and you can get a paternity test done.  But you don't have to date her or take care of  her during that time in my opinion.  This was a hook up.  So, don't have sex with her, don't act like her boyfriend (unless you want to be), etc.  Then she has the baby, you get a paternity test.  If it's yours, it's yours and you'll be a daddy.  If it is not, you can walk away a free man.

But really, don't use the old "me being a guy" excuse for behavior that is dangerous. You DID use a condom and I'm very happy about that.  Keep that up!  Never have unprotected sex.

good luck, get her to test in front of you or to take you to a doctor's appt.  good luck

[Londres70]

Dear, you sound young.  Definitely cut off ALL sex with this girl as I think she is up to something.  Sending you a picture of a supposed pregnancy test she took at home is NOT enough evidence that she is pregnant.  Plus the test was "iffy" at that.  Even if she was that doesn't mean it is YOURS.  

Tell her to make a doctor's appointment and you go along.  Then this all will be confirmed in a DOCTOR'S office not in a bathroom where you all would be trying to figure out if the home pregnancy test is positive or negative.  Even if the home pregnancy test is positive, you still have to have this CONFIRMED by a physician.  

If she had sex with you and this ex within the same time period you will NOT know who's the father UNLESS a paternity test is done to determine this.  

BTW:  You CAN'T pee any sperm out of your "precum" and condoms are NOT 100% foolproof especially if they aren't used properly.  In other words, if you are having vaginal sex with anyone that can conceive pregnancy is ALWAYS a possibility.  

If she is NOT willing to go to the doctor's to have this sorted out then DUMP HER AND DUMP HER FAST and assume she is up to something.  Tell her you will take responsibility if she can PROVE this is YOUR child and the ONLY way to do that is through a paternity test; that's if she IS pregnant.

This happened to my brother and the girl was bringing the kid to my parents' house, etc.  My family refused to accept the child because we felt like it was not his.  Ended up it WASN'T his and she was just trying to have us help her raise the child because my family has money.  

BE CAREFUL AND PLAY SMART.  

[claudetis23]

First thing is first. Buy a pregnancy test and have her take it while you are there and wait for the results together..if money is an issue go to planned parenthood. if this is all true you get a DNA TEST unless he looks just like you.
Good luck

[Kayannaboo]

Well she very well may be tricking you. It would be nice for her to take the test infront of you so u can see for yourself not via text. If the test is positive, then take her to the doctor to find out how far along she is.

She is still having sex with her ex so even if she's pregnant it may not be yours.

Anna