hey there, we technically have the same story but the only difference is we're still together until now. we only met on facebook when me and my friends we're so bored, we started adding random strangers we could search. my friend found one, so we all added him as a friend. he accepted my friend request, and once he did, he inboxed me and asked who i was. i just said my name-that's it. the next day, my friend gave my fake nessenger account, so he talked to me. we talked about random stuff and we got to know each other. i didnt tell him everything about me because we dont know each other. but he told me everything about him, and i knew that he came from the country where i'm in (somewhere in asia) and migrated to canada only 6 months before we talked. and that's not all, we even went to the same school. but he was 2 years older than me, i was 12 and he was 14.. i know that that was kind of young but i don't regret anything. after 2 months, that's when he talked to me again. he told me i was pretty and he likes me. of course i didnt believe him at first, but each day we talked, i felt happy and all the stress i felt was gone. he makes cheers me up all the time, he doesnt even know because i dont tell him when im in a bad mood. during my 13th birthday, he sent me a letter. directly at my house. so eventually, ewe had fallen for each other and we became together. he was always there for me whenever i;m sad, and he'd stay up very late, or even sometimes he doesnt sleep at all everynight just to talk to me. though i dont stay up at night, he says its alright because he doesn't want me to get tired the next day. he'd give me expensive presents all the time, and i don't. he said it was okay, he understands. now we're nearly 26 months together, i'm 15 and he's 17. our age difference may seem very far, but who cares, we still love each other and we believe that someday, we will see each other and have fun like the other couples out there (: xx
when i was your age i had a huge crush on a guy who was spending the summer in my town with his grandparents. he had a crush on me too and we spent a lot of time at the beach, the movies etc. we had the best time together and we were both so sad that after labor day he had to go back to his hometown 450 miles away. we swore to keep in touch with letters and phone calls. there was no internet, cell phone, texting or email in those days. so we did keep regular contact for 3 months. yes we did - he wrote and called me regularly and i wrote him back and lived for his calls. after 3 months i realized i was missing out on dating guys who were in my town and as much as i liked my long-distance guy, i knew i was too young to be tied down and miss out on growing up.
EVERYONE (you, me, him) is "different" on paper than in "real life" - we all mean well but it's just "different" when we are "dealing" with one another "one on one" Sure, sometimes I think it "may" happen to work out long term - but often - NOT!!
You would do better to meet someone You can communicate with in the "here and now" and build on that.
I met my now fiance on a website. We weren't looking for a relationship but hit it off. He lived in pa and I lived in wi. Then he got deployed to Afghanistan for a year. We.talked on webcam and wrote letters. It was a lot of work but now we live together and I'm carrying his daughter. So yes they can with but it takes a lot of work!
Thank you for your answer i agree :)
Thank you i understand your answer and you are right :)
I wouldn't consider this an actual relationship only because you both have never met in person....this is or was a cyber relationship.
The problems I see are: your age and you weren't planning on meeting or can't meet.
This decision was for the best I think....for you all to end this "cyber" relationship.
I have been in a long-distance relationship, however, the relationship was established before it became a long-distance relationship. It didn't work out because we just didn't have much in common in the end and wanted different things out of life.....such is life.
It is very easy to fall in love with the idea of a relationship or love or a person we've never even met. I'm not putting down the closeness you feel for him in any way. I'm just saying that it is different than having someone in your life in the flesh.
When long distance relationships do work, they have a foundation. People have spent time together and know each other, they have the ability to do it in the future, and they have future plans to be together.
In my heart of hearts, I wonder how much of life this cyber relationship has cost you real time with people that could have been in your life. Even just friends that you should be hanging out with at 16/17 years old (as you've been doing this for a year). Often things on the internet are a distraction from real life. At your age, you need to be in the thick of real life.
That is my honest opinion.
I know you are hurting but feel like this will ultimately be in your best interest. Study hard in school, stay close to your friends, date someone who you meet WHERE you are at in your real life when you are ready, etc. Again, I'm sorry your heart aches.
to me, this isn't so much a situation of a long distance relationship as you never met. Instead, how you can be close to someone on the internet and have that keep you away from other things. I do feel for you and know you won't like seeing me say this. But it is from my heart. good luck dear