there have been so many that have this problem, and at some point, the man will think, i am not married, so he thinks i can move on, You may not like my opion, but 4 years is a long time for a relationship , and if he does not want marriage by now,you can see the writing on the wall, but the more you mention it the more he will look away,if he is not in the mood by now he will never be , if you really want to know, just give him a choice just say I have decided that it is marriage or i am leaving and going on with my life, you will know for sure then and not have to wonder. lots luck jo
Jozie, I think you need to decide what you want, and not just kind of wonder what he wants.
Do you want children? Maybe you don't, maybe you don't know, maybe you do. If you know you do, time's ticking, girl. I know the old adage is there's time for everything, but fertility problems set in for women right about now. You are approaching the end of when you can expect to get pregnant and carry a child without a lot of medical intervention.
A lot of women put off having children as something to do "in the future" and then are shocked and dismayed that a first time pregnancy after the age of 32 or so is difficult.
Best wishes. At 30 you probably know more about what you want than you are really indicating here, you are just kind of allowing for any outcome based on what he wants.