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Losing a relationship to porn
When we first got together about 4 years ago, i noticed he could never reach climax, i never really thought much of it because i have never been in this situation.
I thought maybe he just had some type of issues with his past causing this, but as i read more on porn addiction, this seems to be the problem. Now the biggest problem is we haven’t had sex in a year and a half, and I’m losing my mind.
We are very young, in our mid 20’s, I know he’s not cheating because he is always at home, he does not work, and were always together. I only saw him watching it once, but on his pc there are thousands and thousands of naked pics and porn sites. I would not at all mind if we were having sex, but why is this, and at such a young age, can i do anything? I’ve tried talking about it, but he just gets mad and denies it. He knows I know. I really need help with this, I love him and don’t want to leave him, but I’m way to young not to be having sex.
I thought maybe he just had some type of issues with his past causing this, but as i read more on porn addiction, this seems to be the problem. Now the biggest problem is we haven’t had sex in a year and a half, and I’m losing my mind.
We are very young, in our mid 20’s, I know he’s not cheating because he is always at home, he does not work, and were always together. I only saw him watching it once, but on his pc there are thousands and thousands of naked pics and porn sites. I would not at all mind if we were having sex, but why is this, and at such a young age, can i do anything? I’ve tried talking about it, but he just gets mad and denies it. He knows I know. I really need help with this, I love him and don’t want to leave him, but I’m way to young not to be having sex.
Hell no!!!!! A year and a half without sex. You guys are in your 20s. Hell no!!!! Run girl. Leave that mofo. I am serious. It is like you are stuck in hell. This is not a healthy relationship. If you guys get married, you will probably cheat on him because you will get tired of not being touched. I am sorry for your situation, but leave if he does not fix this issues fast. My advice is hard, but fair. Good luck.
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Dear, unfortunately, you are at a cross roads. You must decide if you want a sexless marriage to someone that uses porn to avoid intimacy (as well as his problems in life) and does so to the point of being unable to achieve climax (pretty serious level of addiction) with you even if he tries to have sex or you have to move on.
It is a long road to recover from sexual addiction and one has to enter the process guns blazing and ready to heal. Is your boyfriend at that point?
Otherwise, it will remain like it is right now. I'd not live that way, personally.
And that you are willing to worries me. Love is what you do for someone and not a feeling. Is he returning "love" to you by fulfilling you sexually?
Things to ponder. And it is acceptable for you to choose to remain with him. This is your choice. good luck
It is a long road to recover from sexual addiction and one has to enter the process guns blazing and ready to heal. Is your boyfriend at that point?
Otherwise, it will remain like it is right now. I'd not live that way, personally.
And that you are willing to worries me. Love is what you do for someone and not a feeling. Is he returning "love" to you by fulfilling you sexually?
Things to ponder. And it is acceptable for you to choose to remain with him. This is your choice. good luck
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