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Loving relationship with less than enough love making
My boyfriend and I have been together 18 months and we have a very happy relationship. I am 22 and he is 33 years old. 6 months into the relationship our previously wonderful sex life dropped off for no reason I can assertain.
He almost never expresses a desire to have sex with me and I feel as if I am always the one inniating things. I know he is aware that this is distressing to me. I've tried to discuss it with him several times but he started crying at the mention of it and I didn't know how to pursue it further.
He tries to pleasure me in other ways, which I appreciate but I dont feel as if this can solve the problem entirely. I've tried to suggest that we talk about our fantasies or watch a sexy movie, I've surprised him with sexy lingerie and suggested we have sex during the day when he's less likely to be tired, but none of these things arouse any interest from him. In an ideal world I'd like to have sex 3 or 4 times a week, maybe that's too high an expectation, but we're both young and fit, happy with our professional/personal lives and our relationship is warm and affectionate in every other aspect? I just dont understand why things are like this when everything else seems to be going so well. I'm worried he might be suffering from depression? He seems really saddened by the situation.
He almost never expresses a desire to have sex with me and I feel as if I am always the one inniating things. I know he is aware that this is distressing to me. I've tried to discuss it with him several times but he started crying at the mention of it and I didn't know how to pursue it further.
He tries to pleasure me in other ways, which I appreciate but I dont feel as if this can solve the problem entirely. I've tried to suggest that we talk about our fantasies or watch a sexy movie, I've surprised him with sexy lingerie and suggested we have sex during the day when he's less likely to be tired, but none of these things arouse any interest from him. In an ideal world I'd like to have sex 3 or 4 times a week, maybe that's too high an expectation, but we're both young and fit, happy with our professional/personal lives and our relationship is warm and affectionate in every other aspect? I just dont understand why things are like this when everything else seems to be going so well. I'm worried he might be suffering from depression? He seems really saddened by the situation.
Kathlene, has he ever been married?
You're 22, and you probably don't get this fully at your age. He's 33. Dating a 22 year old shows great immaturity on his part. And the fact that he is FAILING at that relationship kicks him out the door.
His maturity level should be so far beyond yours that he wouldn't be interested in a relationship with you (although guys always like to look at and think about younger cute women and would like to have sex with them, but not a long term relationship). Instead, it seems you are more mature than he is.
I think you should disentangle yourself from this man who appears to have stunted growth, and find a guy your age who is "whole", and go from there.
You're 22, and you probably don't get this fully at your age. He's 33. Dating a 22 year old shows great immaturity on his part. And the fact that he is FAILING at that relationship kicks him out the door.
His maturity level should be so far beyond yours that he wouldn't be interested in a relationship with you (although guys always like to look at and think about younger cute women and would like to have sex with them, but not a long term relationship). Instead, it seems you are more mature than he is.
I think you should disentangle yourself from this man who appears to have stunted growth, and find a guy your age who is "whole", and go from there.
I was wondering why he cried. He still hasn't even discussed with you what's going on? That's what you need to figure out first. What does his crying mean? Whenever he's ready, that's when you both need to get to the answers. Good Luck with it
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