M i in love with him??

[Hiiya]

I don't know why it happens. . . . I had a bf we were together for 4 years then due to some reason we broke up... i cried alot .. i was hurt badly. .  Then after few months i was in relationship with another guy but after 1 year he cheated on me. . Once again i was like. . I didn't know what was happening around me what m i suppose to do nd what is not i was in a very bad condition i cried then after one month i became a little bit normal. . Now. . 2 months ago in my academy i saw a boy of my class. . . I waited for him tou contact or to talk but he didn't.  . I contacted him then just after one day he asked me about my nude pics etc nd after 2 days he kissed me nd etc. . I never had sex . .then 2 days ago he tried to have sex with me . . I said no. . But then i was convinced we have a plan tou have sex after 1 week but i don't understand him. . Is he just flirt?? Nd above all. . Why i m like this? Why i trust everyone who show just a little bit of love even if it's fake or not. . . . I have been hurted many many times. . . . I don't want to be hurted again what should i do?? I don't feel good without him i just want to see him to talk with him to meet him. . M i just addicted or i m in love with him? If it's addiction then how i can remove this addiction.  . But if it's love then what should i do because he is not in love with me i noticed it. . He didn't talked to me today nd i m like. . I can't stop thinking about him. . Even if i don't want. . I don't want to be hurted plz help me

[specialmom]

I think what you do, since you agree that you know deep down this isn't healthy, is you work on YOU> Stay busy, make other plans, get a plan for how to work on yourself.  The guys are a bit of a band aid--  their attention feels good. It does for everyone, but if it is starting to control you so you don't make good choices, then you need to get stronger on our own.  Don't date at all until you are.  see a therapist.  Work on school/career.  Work on exercise and getting strong.  build really strong friendships.  Have a social life that is about having fun and not this woo woo of a guy paying attention to you. this sounds hard----  but it's the ticket to being free of being tied to needing this guy or any other.  good luck

[AnnieBrooke]

Well, you sound kind of off balance, like you will fall for anyone who gives you a kind word.  Don't give anyone nude pics, for heaven's sake, don't even take them.  And don't have sex with someone who you can tell doesn't love you.  You are looking for a boy who will be serious about you forever, not a boy who is just after sex.

[Hiiya]

Yeah exactly i m looking for someone who will truely love me . . But dear what should i do? My eyes are just looking for him for 2 days i can't control :(