Moody boyfriend

[Hypnoash6]

Instead of going to my softball game tonight my boyfriend and I went to get ice cream at Yogurtland.  He was nice and treated me. After we got our frozen yogurt we agreed to eat it there so I sat on the curb assuming he would sit next to me but he had to stand, which kind of made me upset why he couldn't sit with me (maybe thats a guy thing? or a just him thing?). Then when he was finish he suggested of driving and maybe I finishing my yogurt in the car, why the rush? I said Id rather just stay and finish it. He complained in the care he didn’t like it. Then kidding around said it was my fault because I chose the place and he didn’t like it. He gets so moody, its like he can never have fun and it brings me down. I dont get it? or is it just me? We always have fun at home together but when we go out theres something wrong.

[DavidY10]

It's fine to be grumpy but don't let him get away with blaming you for things like the frozen yogurt being bad. If he's blaming you for his problems small or large eventually he will be resenting you and that's a bad relationship road

[teko]

I agree with all the above, and can you just imagine how much worse it gets once you tie the knot. People are generally at their best during the dating phase, afterwards it all comes out as they think now they gotcha! Something to consider, besides that who wants to be around someone who cannot laugh or who has to be so serious all the time.

[Hypnoash6]

Thanks for all the advice. Yeah I hate when the moodiness occurs because then all he does is complain and I would rather be alone.

[sweetpea03]

My ex used to be majorly moody and it got old real fast, it's not something I would put up with. If he does it a lot, then I'd really look at the relationship and see if it's worth sticking around. Just like what Specialmom had said, keep track of all of these things while dating. Being moody in and of itself is not really a deal breaker, but added with other things, it can be. Yogurtland is great, I love going there with my boyfriend. Though if he was always moody, I wouldn't put up with it.

[mami1323]

Isn't it crazy how someone's mood can affect our own?  I hate hate hate it when my fiance is crabby and even though it has nothing to do with me, it just brings me down as well.  Especially if I just want to enjoy life.  However, it usually is something else like Annie said.  If it is work related I usually tell my fiance that when he comes through that door, and I know specialmom does the same, that all those work stresses stay outside.  I don't want to deal with your work problems when I have my own.  I don't bring them home with me.  Life is too short to be so mad all the time.  So I agree, if he's like this all the time, then I would reconsider being in this relationship.  As time goes on he will get worse and he will know that he can treat you however he would like and you will stay and take it.  Good luck.

[AnnieBrooke]

It sounds like he was not enjoying himself.  No blame to you, at all.  When someone is all pissy about things, it means that for one reason or another, they are annoyed and are letting the little things carry the blame when there really is an underlying discontent.  

If this is a constant pattern, I'd say he is not enjoying himself in the relationship.  If this was the first time he was like that, then I'd say he was just having an off day.  If he was just having an off day, let it ride.  But if he is like this most of the time, take the bull by the horns and ask, "Are you having any fun in this relationship at all?  If not, are you interested in ending it?"  

Because frankly, going shopping or seeing your girlfriends or curling up watching TV at home alone is more fun than putting up with a crab.

[specialmom]

Well, it is hard to say.  Guys are like females--------- some can be moody and some more than others.  I don't really find it to be an attractive quality in a person to be honest.  I mean we all get grumpy once in a while but when it is more than once in a while . . . I find myself feeling like "why bother?"  

Again, I say this in all sincerity.  Keep track of these things while you are dating.  Assume this is who he is and he will not change.  Then decide if you want to live with it forever.  It is okay not to.  If you do, then accept that he is just a moody guy and going to rain on your yogurt parade.  good luck