how to keep my boyfriend interested.

[periodproblems]

My boyfriend and i have been dating for almost a year now. Im 18 and he's 17. But i just don't know if im keeping him interested in me. we've gotten to know each other pretty well and we know a lot about one another. There isn't much for us to do around here. We go to the movies and out to dinner a lot. But i think im boring him with that. Lately we've just been hanging out at my house but im getting tired of being here at my house doing nothing. And i really want to keep him interested in me and not get bored. I need some ideas of things that we could do together. We've gone fishing together but that also kinda got old. So if anyone has any ideas of things to do, please let me know. Thank you. :)

[specialmom]

These are years to develop lots of relationships with lots of people.  Good friends are important and I guess I do tend to agree with your mom that JUST wanting to spend time with him is isolating.  One thing you can do in school this year is JOIN a group or try to play a sport and in doing either of those, work on developing some friendships.  Or, as said above, reconnect with your friends you've not spent as much time with.  Living like an old married couple when you are in highschool is not a great idea.  It is a time to learn about life and the world.  good luck

[periodproblems]

Thank you! That was some really good advice, i really think i should get in contact with some old friends. Now if they wanna hang out that's a whole different story.. but ill have to try to see.

I did take a home pregnancy test and it came back not pregnant. Now i wont worry about that.

[periodproblems]

I haven't started my period yet and im going to take a test tomorrow to see if im pregnant or not.
I haven't really been focusing on me and i think your right, i should focus on me and not worry about whether he's happy or not. If he really cares about me he should be worried if im happy or not. But it doesn't seem to be that way.
Im going to be starting my senior year in high school and i have lunch and chemistry with him. I don't wanna break up with him because it would be very awkward in them classes with him. I really have strong feelings for him but im really stressed out and he isn't help with that. He's sometimes the reason to why i get stressed so much. I really just need a break but i don't know how to tell him that and i know if we broke up id just want him back.
My mom says that I've been spending way to much time with him and that i need to stop seeing him so much but i really don't have any friends to hang out with because I've limited myself to him. She also says she feels like im repeating her life because she started dating my father when she was a junior in high school and she spent everyday day with him and she doesn't want me to limit myself to one guy. But idk how to stop myself from being with him. That's like all i want anymore. Before summer started i didn't want to be with him and he always got upset that i didn't want to hang out so i gave up all my friends to make him happy. But now he doesn't want to really spend as much time with me and i don't get it.
I don't know what to do anymore.
If you've got any advice for me feel free to tell me. :)

[RockRose]

Reading through your profile,  I think you need to focus on you right now and not on him.  You haven't updated about whether you're pregnant or not or whether you've taken a pregnancy test to find out or maybe your period started after all.   If that's all over,  then you can focus on yourself and getting yourself through the very stressful time of your parents breaking up.

I think we tell kids this is normal,  divorce,  and kids are fine through it all.  The fact is,  it's not fine with you and it's ripping you apart and making you retreat to your bed covers and ignore your friends.  

This is the time for you to get back out with your friends,  reconnect with yourself and get through the grief of loss of your family as you've known it.  It sounds like you're spending way too much time with this one guy,  all by yourselves,  when the real pleasures of life come from having groups of close loving friends.

Are you about to leave for college or do you have other plans for this fall?  Have you graduated high school yet?

Best wishes.  I think you need to acknowledge the deep pain your parents are causing you,  and give yourself that time and room to really grieve it and not focus on keeping your boyfriend happy all the time.

[specialmom]

Hi hon.  Well, I can give you some date ideas but I'll be honest.  You shouldn't have to keep someone interested in you.  I've been married a lot of years and just live life without worrying if I'm entertaining enough, fun enough, sexy enough, etc. for him.  A relationship is two people who enjoy each other.  If you think of any of your long term friendships-----  you just like hanging out, right?  Well, a boyfriend should be like that.  

But date ideas---------  well, instead of going out to dinner, you could make dinner together, you could have a game night, you could start to do more with other couples, you could go to a park and play frisbee, etc.  Drive to the closest amusement park.  Go to an arcade.  Go rollerblading together.  Canoeing.  Really, anything your area has to offer----- set it up.

But if you are insecure he will get bored----------- that is a problem.  Talk to him about what kinds of new things he'd like to try and try to relax that it isn't the activity that matters but your company.  good luck