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Okay everyone heres a question I'd like to know what you all think.
My daughter as most of you know is in kindergaten this year. I put her into the public school system. Not the best of choices I have discovered.
Heres what is going on. A couple of 5th graders are picking on her. I am pretty sure it is due to the fact that she is blond hair blue eyed, and thin. These other girls have seemed to pick my daughter out and decided to start giving her a hard time. I found out about this and told my daughter to tell a teacher if it happens again. Well she did, and the teacher did nothing except tell her we need to all be friends. Again these girls are in 5th grade and mine is 5 years old.
We ended up going to a private school this afternoon to see about putting her in there. I am 99% sure that we will do this on Monday. The school she is at has a bullying problem and even the school counselor told me that today when I talked to her.
My question is am I over reacting about this?
One other problem is my daughters teacher is 25 years old, going through a bad divorce and works a night job too. I feel she has too much going on and I don't want it to be at my daughters expense. Then there is also a little boy in her class that has had to switch classes at the school twice this year so far due to behavioral problems. Last thing he did was hit a little girl in class. Good thing it wasn't my daughter.
Alright, so let me have it ladies. Should I put her in the private school where I know there won't be so many problems with bullying. Or should I wait it out and see?
For all that don't know private Christian schools cost about 5000.00 a year where as public is pretty much free. Which my family can handle (no more going out to eat as often though).
My daughter as most of you know is in kindergaten this year. I put her into the public school system. Not the best of choices I have discovered.
Heres what is going on. A couple of 5th graders are picking on her. I am pretty sure it is due to the fact that she is blond hair blue eyed, and thin. These other girls have seemed to pick my daughter out and decided to start giving her a hard time. I found out about this and told my daughter to tell a teacher if it happens again. Well she did, and the teacher did nothing except tell her we need to all be friends. Again these girls are in 5th grade and mine is 5 years old.
We ended up going to a private school this afternoon to see about putting her in there. I am 99% sure that we will do this on Monday. The school she is at has a bullying problem and even the school counselor told me that today when I talked to her.
My question is am I over reacting about this?
One other problem is my daughters teacher is 25 years old, going through a bad divorce and works a night job too. I feel she has too much going on and I don't want it to be at my daughters expense. Then there is also a little boy in her class that has had to switch classes at the school twice this year so far due to behavioral problems. Last thing he did was hit a little girl in class. Good thing it wasn't my daughter.
Alright, so let me have it ladies. Should I put her in the private school where I know there won't be so many problems with bullying. Or should I wait it out and see?
For all that don't know private Christian schools cost about 5000.00 a year where as public is pretty much free. Which my family can handle (no more going out to eat as often though).
Im so glad you made the right choice. Its always a bad feeling when something goes wrong with our children.
I always snicker when I see that you say your 106. Your so funny. Don't change your profile because it's just so funny.
Mattie starts full-time school tomorrow. She is so looking forward to it. Monday she sat in on the class and just loved it. I think we have good thing going right now. I know I feel at peace with my decision now. Something in my gut was bothering me for the past month, but its gone now. Great feeling.
Mattie starts full-time school tomorrow. She is so looking forward to it. Monday she sat in on the class and just loved it. I think we have good thing going right now. I know I feel at peace with my decision now. Something in my gut was bothering me for the past month, but its gone now. Great feeling.
You do not ask a 5 yr old child what should be done. Children get very easily confused. They might tell the truth, and they might not because they don't understand and think they need to please their parents i.e. "I like it, but mom don't so I've to tell her that I don't like it" and vise versa i.e. "mom likes it but I don't but I want to please mom so so I tell her that I like it. The mother/parents see/feel what is right for their kids as in school. The mom/parents makes the decision, once a school is picked and the child is shown that school as Laura's girl was then the parent can ask the child "what do you think about THIS school" the parent doesn't show /tell the child either or. Should the child want to stay with the bad school, then its the parents job to explain to the 5 yr old why he/she should change schools, why it would be better for her/him.
You're only 17 you might have babysat or have younger siblings but that is not the same as the experience of a mother/parents raising a child.
Laura, I'm happy for you that you found that school
You're only 17 you might have babysat or have younger siblings but that is not the same as the experience of a mother/parents raising a child.
Laura, I'm happy for you that you found that school
I am so glad your daughter is happy. I think you did the right thing. I have absolutely no regrets about my choice either. It's a great feeling when your kids actually WANT to go to school.
You know come to think of it our taxes on our home went up 30.00 a month this year. I can't for the life of me figure out where the school system is putting it though. As their classrooms are very plan, and the schools could use some adding onto, as I believe that is most of our school systems problem. They are OVER CROWDED! My daughter only got 9-10 minutes to get her lunch and eat it. Most of this is because they have so many children at the school.
You know many people don't realize that private schools offer financial aid to those who qualify. We didn't though. Also, if you are a member of the churchs in the system, they can sometimes knock off half the price right there.
Last year our public school system had to drop full day kindergarten and go to half day because they lost the funds. They did get the funds this year though.
I understand that not all public school systems are as bad as we are, but there are alot. Heck, the ISTEP scores in the private schools hear are 90%-95% whereas the public schools are 55%-60%. 5 Schools in our public school systems are on probabtion of loosing their funding because their ISTEP scores are so low. Parents in those districts are allowed to send their children to another school in another district.
I kept an open mind at the beginning of this and was hoping that it would work out in the public school system, but it didn't.
I can't tell you how much happier our daughter is with this new school. She likes that the kids take turns feeding the fish and watering the plants. They also give them 20 minutes of down time in the middle of the day. It's more like a kindergarten room should be. It is living proof that a 5 year old can still have fun in school and make high grades.
My parents sent all 5 of us kids to private schools. I now know what kind-of money that took them to do that.
You know many people don't realize that private schools offer financial aid to those who qualify. We didn't though. Also, if you are a member of the churchs in the system, they can sometimes knock off half the price right there.
Last year our public school system had to drop full day kindergarten and go to half day because they lost the funds. They did get the funds this year though.
I understand that not all public school systems are as bad as we are, but there are alot. Heck, the ISTEP scores in the private schools hear are 90%-95% whereas the public schools are 55%-60%. 5 Schools in our public school systems are on probabtion of loosing their funding because their ISTEP scores are so low. Parents in those districts are allowed to send their children to another school in another district.
I kept an open mind at the beginning of this and was hoping that it would work out in the public school system, but it didn't.
I can't tell you how much happier our daughter is with this new school. She likes that the kids take turns feeding the fish and watering the plants. They also give them 20 minutes of down time in the middle of the day. It's more like a kindergarten room should be. It is living proof that a 5 year old can still have fun in school and make high grades.
My parents sent all 5 of us kids to private schools. I now know what kind-of money that took them to do that.
I read your post your 17 yrs old and no children who do you think you are telling Laura what to do?
Laura- It makes me mad when these teens have no children think they no what they are talking about......
Laura- It makes me mad when these teens have no children think they no what they are talking about......
I am so happy that you found a solution that works for you. My husband and I feel very blessed to have the means to do this for our children as well. Our system is really broken though that this is even an issue. How are your public schools funded? Where I live it is through property taxes. Which means of course that the more money you make, the better the area where you live, the more you pay in taxes and the better your schools are. This is truly unfair to those less fortunate and my heart goes out to those who have no other choice but to send their children to these broken and often times violent schools. Some of my friends tried to guilt me into sending my girls through the public system, telling me that getting involved would force a change. But as I mentioned before I wouldn't sacrifice my girls for a change that is so far off into the future, things are so messed up. I choose to believe that by giving my girls the best education I could provide it might inspire them to go on and change the world. I feel that we are blessed to be able to do this for our children.
um here's the thing. My daughter is 5 years old. I am not going to keep her in a school that is harmful for her learning just because she says she wants to. I as a parent have seen the bad in the school she was at, and ultimatly it is a parents decision on where to send their children. I don't really feel that you have read the postings as then you wouldn't be asking this question. I mean if I stated that my daughter started this new school and she was so happy, that usually means she was happy with it. As parents you can tell by your childrens behavior if something is off. I could see that, and then I spent time at the school to see what the issues were. I talked with many other mothers that had the same issues, but couldn't afford to put their kids in private schools.
When you get older K1990 and have your own children you will realize what a parent goes through to do the best for their child. You are seeing it from the aspect of a teens view, but my daughter is only in kindergarten. Are you aware that the first couple of years of school is the biggest thing for a child. Their brain is still growning and what happens in these years is very important.
My child is safe at this new school. As safe as she is going to be. My father went to this school, and me and my brothers went to this school, and now my daughter. It is a great school and we are putting our daughters well being before ours. My daughter is happy about this decision, as I stated earlier.
When you get older K1990 and have your own children you will realize what a parent goes through to do the best for their child. You are seeing it from the aspect of a teens view, but my daughter is only in kindergarten. Are you aware that the first couple of years of school is the biggest thing for a child. Their brain is still growning and what happens in these years is very important.
My child is safe at this new school. As safe as she is going to be. My father went to this school, and me and my brothers went to this school, and now my daughter. It is a great school and we are putting our daughters well being before ours. My daughter is happy about this decision, as I stated earlier.
I'm glad your little girl is happy about school and that is actually a very big thing. Ask her what she wants to do... if she wants to stay where she is or change schools that way you know that it won't affect her in a bad way because she helped decide on her school. Good luck!
I watched this morning while my daughter sat in on that class, and I was amazed how much one on one time the teacher could give the kids. 9 kids in the class, much better then the over crowded ones at the public. I am completely at peace with my decision, and my daughter is happy too. :)
I understand about the cost thing, that was why we backed out of it before. But I told the school my concerns with the cost, and they are letting us pay a low monthly payment, and then in Feb. I pay a balloon payment with tax check. Isn't that so great!
Well, get this everyone. We went to pick up my daughters school supplies from the public school she was going to, guess what her teacher told me? She said she totally understood why I took her out and that she would've done the same thing. She agrees with me that there is something majorly wrong with that school. That's a teacher from the school telling me that.
There would be no questions asked, I would put my child in a private school. They get better hands on with the teacher because these kind of schools are not over crowered. private schools are great. If you can afford it girl goahead and make the change.
I know what you mean about knowing people from your past. My husband also went to this private school and the same teachers that tought him are teaching our son. It is a wonderful thing. The teachers dont just know you (the child) they truly care for them and watch over them. What more could you possibly want for your child?
Best of luck
Best of luck
Hi Laura
I can tell you that for several years we have debated over putting our son in private school. I just hesitated over the money part of it. It is rather expensive. We finally decided this year to enroll him in a private christian school and I feel like this is the BEST decision we have made in our lives. He is a happier child and is excelling in all subjects. He feels welcome and feels like he belongs somewhere. He is 14 now and this is a very impressionable time in his life.He has always been sort of a "follower" type of kid. So this was a major concern for us as parents.
It is worth every penny. I do know that there are "bad" kids everywhere, but I cant help but think that a school with 25 kids in his whole 9th grade class is more stable for a child than a school with thousands of kids. I know that he loves all of his teachers and he gets personal attention with everything he needs at school.
Good luck on your decision.
I can tell you that for several years we have debated over putting our son in private school. I just hesitated over the money part of it. It is rather expensive. We finally decided this year to enroll him in a private christian school and I feel like this is the BEST decision we have made in our lives. He is a happier child and is excelling in all subjects. He feels welcome and feels like he belongs somewhere. He is 14 now and this is a very impressionable time in his life.He has always been sort of a "follower" type of kid. So this was a major concern for us as parents.
It is worth every penny. I do know that there are "bad" kids everywhere, but I cant help but think that a school with 25 kids in his whole 9th grade class is more stable for a child than a school with thousands of kids. I know that he loves all of his teachers and he gets personal attention with everything he needs at school.
Good luck on your decision.
It's not a big change to switch her to a private school. She went to a private pre-k last year, and she has only been in kindergaten for 1 month at this public school so it's not like it's a big switch. She actually went to the private school today to sit in on the class, and she loved it so much more then the other school. My child is smiling again where she had stopped smiling about school with the public school she was going to.
There really aren't too many cons with this private Luthern school we are sending her too. You know the kids are so much more respectful to adults there. Again I know alot about this school because I went to elementary there also. Something is to be said when parents who went there end up taking their children there too. A couple of the parents there I saw were in my class there when I was younger.
There really aren't too many cons with this private Luthern school we are sending her too. You know the kids are so much more respectful to adults there. Again I know alot about this school because I went to elementary there also. Something is to be said when parents who went there end up taking their children there too. A couple of the parents there I saw were in my class there when I was younger.
I went to a public school in Colorado and they are the biggest jokes! The district is mainly to blame but the teachers in elementry school are basicly forced to speak out of a book and it's getting to the point where it is like they are just reading them the book all day instead of finding an actually decent way to teach. I think that if you start in a public school its too big of a change to swich to a private school but by the time I was in my sophomore year of high school I was begging my parents to let me get my GED because I hated the environment so much. I had a ton of friends and got along well with almost everyone and the social part of school was the only thing I could handle, I hated the way the school was run, the teachers and the rules. So there are pros and cons of both public and private, I'm not quite sure what the difference is with a charter school.
Yur doing the best for yur child. I would go there when they have playtime. I would be very upset to if someone was picking on Conner.
I haven't ever been to Leavenworth. We were actually going to take a day trip today to Clarksville, Indiana to the Bass Pro Shop, but we didn't end up going because ou year old has a cold. It takes us a little under 2 hours to get to Clarksville, IN. We are actually in the big E.
Laura,
I only have an idea what town you live in. I love the countryside in Indiana. I go to Jeffersonville, IN twice a week you guessed it, to the Thrift Stores, they have awsome Thrift Stores there. :) Did you ever go to the "overlook" restaurant? Its in Leavenworth, IN
April,
Thanks for the info. I admire the orientals who can speak and write English. Its such a different language and their letters are so different. We know people who were stationed in Okinawa and they loved it.
I only have an idea what town you live in. I love the countryside in Indiana. I go to Jeffersonville, IN twice a week you guessed it, to the Thrift Stores, they have awsome Thrift Stores there. :) Did you ever go to the "overlook" restaurant? Its in Leavenworth, IN
April,
Thanks for the info. I admire the orientals who can speak and write English. Its such a different language and their letters are so different. We know people who were stationed in Okinawa and they loved it.
Oh my gosh! My sister lives in Louisville, Ky! It's a small world! You can't tell where I live, I didn't say on my profile. I guess I'm just over cautious about giving out too much information.
And in answer to your question, yes we loved our time in Japan, except the earthquakes! Those took a little adjusting to! It's funny, we didn't want to go. We didn't want to leave the States and family but God had other plans. It was in Japan where my husband came back to the Lord and we met the most wonderful people that we are still friends with today. You tend to get very tight nit when you're overseas like that and only have each other. We still keep in contact with some missionary friends over there and love to hear from them and their stories. We really enjoyed our stay there and tried to get out in the community and see as much as we could. Of course, my kids favorite thing was when we went to Tokyo Disneyland! It's just like our Disneyland! The Japanese for the most part were very friendly and open to the Americans. Of course there were some who didn't like us being there, but most of them were very nice and patient when we tried to speak to them in their language. We'd love to go back someday. I'm glad we went. It was a wonderful experience.
And in answer to your question, yes we loved our time in Japan, except the earthquakes! Those took a little adjusting to! It's funny, we didn't want to go. We didn't want to leave the States and family but God had other plans. It was in Japan where my husband came back to the Lord and we met the most wonderful people that we are still friends with today. You tend to get very tight nit when you're overseas like that and only have each other. We still keep in contact with some missionary friends over there and love to hear from them and their stories. We really enjoyed our stay there and tried to get out in the community and see as much as we could. Of course, my kids favorite thing was when we went to Tokyo Disneyland! It's just like our Disneyland! The Japanese for the most part were very friendly and open to the Americans. Of course there were some who didn't like us being there, but most of them were very nice and patient when we tried to speak to them in their language. We'd love to go back someday. I'm glad we went. It was a wonderful experience.
Yes, I stated that before I am member of PTA and do attend the meetings. I am also room mother, and popcorn lady at the school on Fridays. PTA president knows me by name, and school cafe people know me, Many teachers even know who I am. My daughter has only been in classes for one month, and I am pretty known there. I am up front and center.
I even go to lunch there once a week with my daughter, as they do let parents do this at least.
I even go to lunch there once a week with my daughter, as they do let parents do this at least.
do you attend the pta meetings to bring up the issue that the older kids are picking on the 5 yr olds? have you taken this as far as you can? the school sounds like its not the best, id probably change too i have done that as well. i know where i live there is a huge difference in different districts. be involved no matter what, dont be afraid to take your thoughts and questions and opinions to whoever you need to be satisfied. lol the whole school knows who i am , i am there all the time. good luck, kindergarden should be the best year, not one that makes the rest fearful.
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