Well one thing really stands out...he would take viagara before seeing you. That is a clear sign that he might have ED and doesn't want to talk about it because he is ashamed. It's not an easy thing to deal with when your penis will not get hard anymore. I am guessing this is more of a medical condition then a lack of love or anything like that.
But he is the only one who can really answer anything for you.
Also why would you feel deceived about a medication he took?
thank you for your response Vance. I feel deceived because when he came to see me, we had wild sex all weekend long. I had no idea that he was taking pills. It wasnt untill over a year later he told me, and he only told me because I was questioning why our love making had died down so much. I think he should of told me somehow durning our dating time, not after we moved in together. I do beleive he might have ED, but that doesnt explain why he wont even touch me!
Sure it explains why he won't touch you (if he does indeed have some kind of sexual dysfunction)...he has low self esteem, and is probably very fearful about engaging in activities that will lead to him having to perform.
Most definitely this sounds like an issue he should be discussing with his doctor, and exploring from there. I would encourage you to be gentle with him and patient. If indeed he has a sexual dysfunction, he is probably devastated. He would feel like he's failing you. Some gentle and honest communication seems long overdue here.
Offer to go along with him to a doctor/therapist...wherever he would end up needing to go to look into this...and be understanding if perhaps he doesn't want you to go along...right now, anyway.
Best of luck.
Well if he will not touch you because he knows that he can't give you everything you want/need. I don't have ED but have heard that it is a very tough problem for some men. They deny they have an issue, they don't want to do anything sexually because they feel inferior to other men and know they can't satisy a woman. And they don't want to talk about it.
You need to approach him very gently and soft and explain that you only want to help him. Don't talk about how you want or need anything, make him the focal point and not your needs. If that doesn't work then you can bring in your needs and desires.
thank you very much for the comments. I never looked at it this way. It does make sense now. I will definately will be trying these suggestions
Since we are on the subject of the blue pills you might want to find out where he got them. This is a prescribed medication for those men with erectile dysfunction. If he got these from the street and took them for a prolonged period of time he could be experiencing some side effects from drug abuse. I worked with a guy who took these when he was out partying for about 2 years and he ended up with some very big sexual issues after and even effected his mental state of mind.