Try talking about it with him like you mentioned. Remind him that you're supposed to be in this together and work toward what's really important. Tell him that you're going to school and if the relationship and marriage is going to work you need to set rules that you're both going to stick to; you can't spend more than a certian amount and you have to let the other person know what you're planning on buying before you buy it. If both agree, then the purchase can be made. Remind him of your goal to save money. Having a set allowance for both of you should work. Take control of the check book and balance everything so you know what money is going to and where it needs to stop going like video games and stuff like that that he can live without. Tell him that it's not going to work out if he can't even save money to start your marriage off right. Good luck. I hope everything turns out ok and that he understands what needs to be done.
Maybe. Honestly the idea of seperating accounts makes me feel like I'm taking a step back. I would just prefer to try talking to him again before I suggest it.
There isn't anything wrong with separate accounts. It really makes it easier to keep track of. It would help him learn how to budget and he also might not spend as much.
good ideas. Not what I had hoped to hear but what we need to hear is rarely what we'd like to.
I think I will try talking to him about it first. remind him of what we want and what it will take to get it. My friend suggested that I make it a rule that BOTH of us agree on something before we buy it. which I think is a good Idea. So, I think I'll try that before I suggest we get seperate accounts.
I guess it takes the opinions of others to open you up to your own. :)
Thank you!
You need to have separate accounts because you aren't married.
Your goal is to go to school, and if you are going to have to pay for school yourself (without parent help, for example) you owe it to yourself to keep your finances separate so you can accomplish your goal. You sound much more mature with money than he does.
Its not at all that I don't trust him with money its just that I need to find a way to get him to realize how much he is spending. and get him to stop spending so much. I know he means well but he needs to know that he isn't spending it on things we need. Yes these things are nice to have but we don't need them. and I need a way to get him to see that.
Please Can Anyone give me some advice so that I can make him understand that he needs to stop spending so much???