Attraction is not something you can quantify. Break it off gently with her. She deserves that.
It doesn't make you shallow if you want someone who dresses up nicely, or has a certain body type, it just means you have different 'likes and dislikes', yeah for ppl who like wearing jeans and tshirt on a daily basis, there are other ppl who find them really atractive, and for girls who like to dress up and be neat all times, there are also guys who find them atractive. Now that you know that you like woman who dress up and take care of themselves you should go and find one, not try to change the one you have, because changes that are made for other ppl and not for yourself do not last, she will eventually go back to her comfort zone. The personality thing is the same thing or even worse since changing the personality of someone is not only difficult, it might just not last. Before you make any further commitment you should consider if you are willing to keep the charade of buying her clothes or taking her to the spa on a weekly basis, even going to the gym and making sure she keeps the weight off, all that is quite an effort that you would have to keep up, and the change will only last as long as you keep it up, so lower your guard and the old self will come out! and who knows, maybe she is happy just as she is, and doesn't need to be changed just because you rather have a different type.
LOL!!!! I agree with jo...
I think once this relationship ends and you find a girl who is "High maintenance" you will eat your words!
The only thing I can advise is to help her out and steer her in the right direction. You want her to wear a specific kind of clothing? Then go out and buy her some clothes. Take her to Glamour Shots and let them give her a makeover with portrait session and she will see how beautiful she is all "dolled" up. You make a huge fuss over her "new look" and I mean a HUGE fuss, she will definitely see a different side of you, like it, and think that "maybe this isn't so bad..."
whatever you do, be careful how you approach the subject! If she senses that you are not happy with her looks, it will crush her emotionally, so proceed with caution.
That's about all I can advise....if you still aren't happy after at least trying, then it's up to you on what to do next.
Amen, Jim! My type of guy :)
I am happy with a woman in jeans and a tshirt, no to very little make up. Oh, an occasional dress up..but given my druthers....jeans and Tshirt is just fine with me
Jim
It would appear the new has worn off of the chrystal chandaliers, get out and let her find some that will apprciate her good qualities,and go find a beautiful emty headed attractive clothes horse, this gal is not for you, jo
Not attracted to her? Then leave her and find someone you are compatable with!
you do sound a tad bit shallow, BUT you can't have a romantic, physical relationship with someone who you are not attracted to. Your options:
Option 1: try and stay and work on the relationship, maybe work out with her together(better body shape), get her a free day at the spa(ie makeover) and see how you feel about her then, talk to her about her controlling and how you feel about her trying to push you to more commitment when you're not ready.
Option 2: get out now before you get too involved and really end up hurting her.
you're not married you can leave her.