Not meeting his sexual desire :(

[Willswifey9307]

Well me and my fiance been together for 3 yrs now! Well just recently he told me that I wasn't meeting his sexual desries. Hearing those words made me feel so completely lost! I mean I feel like I give him my all sexually and try to meet all his needs. From oral to doing things I never heard of. But he's telling me his main problem is the oral sex. He claims I don't do it enough. Which I'm sure I dont but I have a good reason. Everytime I give him head it makes me throw up. To me his precum has a certain taste that I just can't describe! It makes me sick to the stomach but still I try to make him happy yet he complains. So I gave in and told him I would make sure to do it once a week but yet that's not good enough. What more does he want from me? I don't want him looking to other woman for sex but if he ever does that then he never loved me from the start. A few mintues is not worth giving up a life time of love and happiness.
My bestfriend tells me Im wrong and that I need to satisfy him completely. But I feel like if I'm giving it my best then that should be enough. Sex is just part of a relationship there's so much more to it then that! If our love isnt strong enough to keep us happy then his heart just wasn't in it. Anyways my question is Iam wrong for not doing it more like he ask? Or Iam right for at least trying? How do you guys feel on this topic?

[remar]

you know anyone can read what you post on your profile page. someone just asked if your still trying to concieve and at least one of your posts says you hope your pregnant. my point is, you lied about it, just scroll up this page, you typed it yourself, i'm not trying to get pregnant. alot of these women have been here at this site a long time and give great advice. my advice is, don't ask a question if you don't  want answers, don't lie and have some respect for the people that are trying to help you. don't worry, i wont make anymore comments on this. remar

[Willswifey9307]

I do not need any of your luck sweetheart so make sure you keep that future cause im seriously not in the need for it. Only thing I need in life is god and trust I have every inch of him in my life.Thanks for your advice and your thoughts but honestly it wont make a difference in my life cause im oh so happy with my man.And to correct you he just recently starting asking for oral not a three yr thing and i will not do anything to please hun its the other way around please guys go check the myspace so you can see my name in bold letter tatted on his arm my new diamond ring and much more! lol but keep the post coming im really enjoying it! oh the myspace url is  http://www.myspace.com/willswifeyloveshimtonz  

[Willswifey9307]

Lol damn i came back from vacation and stil going on and on lol silly billys

[jo929]

i read your post earlier, and really felt like your will was using you, and i was feeling sorry for you and was going to tell you that if it made you sick to tell him to stuff it, then my computer messed up then the answers came in, and i think they were very good intelligent answers but i know some people between 16 and 24 do not take advice from older ones very well, and then again some do if they really want help, and i am one of the oldies i am older than Teko R.R. and all others so i know that i am dumb, and i have raised my kids, if will is what you want, and you did not intend to listen why post Also if i did not like to do a certain thing they could put diamonds on my toes and i would say no i have more respect for my self than to let a man tell me to do this or that, and only a very insensitive man would ask it of you if it made you sick  take a good look at will, because he has used you, and you have let him for 3 years with your need to please in anyway you can it may not last that long, but for yoursake and if he is what you want good luck you will need it  jo

[SeriousSam]

Avoiding other issues, if the main things are oral sex and taste have him change his diet and tell him then you'll try the oral sex more.  there are diets online for that thing.

[treazzure007]

this was awesome!  lol

[momagain59]

You can not get pregnant giving blow jobs.

[sara......]

You write - "Ladies seriously do you have nothing more to do with your time then come to this post every single day and make a comment about me?"

...........but you are doing as much/more posting than everyone!!

[holly_b]

Welcome to medhelp. I hope you don't think this post represents all of medhelp, it doesn't. This girl just stepped on a lot of toes. If you look at the earlier posts, she did get some good advice. Most of the women on this forum are inspiring, helpful, wonderful people. Willswifey insulted some selfless people who took the time out of their day to help her. That is why people (me included) got upset. If you stay on this forum you will no doubt get some insightful answers into any problems which you may have. Look at other posts, they rarely turn out the way that this one did.

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[Willswifey9307]

Your 44 yrs old sweetheart dont you have something better to do with your time? I mean tell Iam that importnant to you? Is me and wills issue that serisous lol wow you need a new hobby. Would u like to hear more about our relationship so i can keep you entertained?

[Willswifey9307]

Lol wow still leaving comment agiesmom dont you have kids to raise lol damn

[Agiesmom]

You post for advice, don't like what people say, then call people on their comments, they rub your nose in it, and when you can't come back with something valid, you say, "Move along people...there's nothing to see here."  Diverting attention is a tactic young children use.  They also stomp their feet and sometimes resort to name calling.

Quite amusing.

[LivingMyhappyLife]

Well hello everyone this is my first day joining medhelp and my first time posting a comment. I have alot to say but ill keep it short. Kristen I think you might have chose the wrong choice of words to use. But if you love William then no one should tell you not to be with him if you feel you worked things out with him then congrats im happy for you. As for everyone else medhelp is suppose to be a place for help and advice that's exactly why I joined this group. I think it's very wrong how your all coming at this young lady. Telling her she's a fool to go vomit come on how old are we? You think shes immature but what does that make everyone that's joining in on this foolishness. Its all crazy to me. I'm not here to look down on anyone im here to give advice so krsten if you have any questions and want some real honest advice you can p.m me! I think this whole thing is rather childish. If you say you worked things out with your fiance then that's all that matters im happy for you hun! Take care

[Willswifey9307]

Ladies seriously do you have nothing more to do with your time then come to this post every single day and make a comment about me? Honestly don't you think it's a little pathetic. I really do. If you don't like me if you think im disrespectful then that's your opinion. I mean nothing you say is going to change the person that Iam or make me fall out of love with the man I love more then anything. You can sit here and judge me time after time but what difference will it make in my or your life? None at all! There's more important things out there in life to worry about then logging on to medhelp every single day to give me a piece of your mind lol. I mean medhelp is for advice not to be judge! You all should have familys to take care of! As far as I'm concerned I worked things out with William Im happy with him thank you for the things you guys had to say but geesh that's enough. No more!! lol I'm tired of coming on here and having to see one of these women that's suppose to be so mature still writing on this post! Issue is resolved. Do you guys want me to say it in a different language cause I speak three lol.
Now sweet hearts lets all get on with our lives and leave this little post alone. I don't think I should be such a big deal in your lives that you guys have to keep going on and on. Do you not understand that with William in my life I smile every second of the day Im the happiest I have ever been in my life. We talked everything over and things have been golden ever since. Maybe next time I'll think twice about posting something because yall give the weakest advice well actually only a few of you give advice the rest of you just have something ignorant to say. Yet I'm the one that needs to grow up! Uhm right!  I don't care what rr says what any of you say it doesnt make me nor break me. So please please find something better to do with your precious time! And if I want to say im willswifey then let me say it If i feel wifey means different from wife then let me think that. Lol I mean why the hell do any of you care in the first place. We are no part of your life we make no difference in your day so please just mind your own business about what I call myself cause personally it has nothing at all to do with you. Make sure next time you should all think about that lol! You guys act like you own medhelp and have the right to tell me how you feel about me! Uhm no I only asked if I was wrong. It was a simple question. But to go and go on how you guys do just makes me think you have nothing more do with your time. Im starting to wonder if you wake and say heyyyy let me go bash kristen today lol! Ugh kristen doesnt give a flying F@#& about what any of you have to say. You want to call me rude if I recall I told rr thanks for the advice but im happy with this man and we worked it out but here comes all of you ladies that have no kind of life saying this and that. Oh shut up pleaseeee! Now everyone please don't take what I say the wrong way! I'll make sure to be posting more post but next time i'll make sure not to say anything about my sexual life that way I want give you guys a heart attack! lol
And holly hun william doesnt make me vomit. I clearly told you and I will tell you once again WE WORKED THE ISSUE OUTTTTTTT okay sweety that's all you need to know. Im glad you wont lose any sleep over me and william but I know you will continue to waste time in your day to make another comment lol. Well everyone have a nice day.
Kisses

[holly_b]

"Wifey does not mean wife theirs a reason for the y on the end lol. You probably all to old to understand that sweeties!"

Like I said I am NINETEEN YEARS OLD which is younger than you and I STILL DID NOT UNDERSTAND. You were not bashed you stepped on a lot of toes saying that RR was too old to understand you. YOU were the one doing the bashing, everyone else was DEFENDING themselves for being "old". (you have no right to tell anyone that they are old. And 40 something is not old by any means. These days people are living well into their 80s and 90s).
Everything that was said up to the point where you became disrespectful to innocent medhelp members was said to help you. YOU were the one that posted a question, YOU wanted answers and you got some very helpful and insightful ones. If you don't like them, fine IGNORE them and GROW UP "sweetie" don't go insulting people who tried to help you "hun". And Hey don't worry just as you could not care less about the opinions which you ASKED for I don't think anyone here will lose sleep over you staying with a man who "completes" you (he also makes you vomit but hey it's your life!. I don't think that would make me feel very complete but clearly that's just me!)
Oh and no one called you a "fool and more". RR said that you were being "played for a fool" which could not be more different. Oh almost forgot Kisses! xxx

[Agiesmom]

The lady doth protest too much, methinks.  (You'll be all grown up when you stop talking about it, sweetheart.)

When you post asking a question on a public forum, you're going to get responses and there are no guarantees you're going to like them.

Oh, and pssst...sweetheart, I didn't ask whether or not you are hoping to get pregnant because you posted this two weeks ago:
http://www.medhelp.org/posts/show/590480?post_id=post_3252439

Or is that some young whippersnapper speak for something else?

Kisses!  :)  xxx

[Willswifey9307]

Oh yeah by the way Im not trying to conceive right now. I was pregnant ended in a miscarriage so if you don't know what your talking about sweetheart then I suggest you ask me first. I have four months left in school so if I happen to get pregnant trust me it would be nothing more then a blessing. Like I said you can judge but none of you are God his opinion is the only one that matters. Kisses

[Willswifey9307]

You all make me laugh by telling me i need to grow up and on and on. Basically you don't live my life. I did not mean any disrespect to rock rose cause honestly she nor any of you walked a single day in my shoes. Your all entitled to your opinions that's exactly why i posted this. But when you go saying im this and that it honestly makes me laugh. Last time i checked this website was for advice but bashing someone is a whole new level. I can really careless what any of you think if your down grading me! Im a grown woman so go ahead say what you feel. Im happy with this man he completes me and more ways then one. Of course I didnt post all the things hes done for  me hello this is medhelp not my family lol. If none of you like what I have to say then its easy to ignore my post not respond even get the hell off of it! Would you all like it if I called you fools and more and more. Wifey does not mean wife theirs a reason for the y on the end lol. You probably all to old to understand that sweeties! Say what want write what you like I can carelss! Cause at then end of the day im happy and none of your opinions make a difference in my HAPPY life. William was being selfish but thats no reason for me to call off our engagement or throw away three years of happiness. Maybe that's why we all live our own lives the way we want to. Your all human as if you never made dumb choices in your life ha ha. But honestly being with William is the best thing in the world I love my fiance and ill continue to love him no matter what any of you say. And I plan on marrying him. Dont worry ill post wedding pictures for all of you! And to correct all of you I had a talk with my fiance and things have been great ever since. So if you want to talk about something why don't you guys go run in tell that. Kisses take care

[MrsOckert]

".....If i was being played for a fool then he wouldnt have put a ring on my finger brought us a house helps pay my car note doesnt ask me to pay any bills takes me shopping evey week doesnt want me to work only finish school for nursing. He cooks romantic dinners for me he runs bubble baths for me and tells me everyday and every way how beautiful i am...."

This is your post - not ours.  If this man is doing all of these things for you then he deserves a blow job once a day not once a week.

Your first posting said nothing about the wonderful things he does for you.  You only complained about what you didn't want to do.

Grow Up.

[Michele, Katy, TX]

Oh ladies you are all great.  LOL!  I don't understand why people get on here and ask for opinions if they don't want opinions.

Sara, Rock Rose, Teko, Aggiesmom, Bear Hitch, holly.....I hope I didn't miss anyone.  I love you ladies and have so much respect for you and your opinions.

And I agree with them.  Any man that truly loves you would not want you to do anything that you are not comfortable with and that's just all there is to it.  As for material things....that doesn't constitute love.

[sara......]

Your post gave me a good laugh : -)

[Agiesmom]

I'm old, too, and thought "wifey" meant "wife".  The Urban Dictionary says otherwise.

Regarding marriage, I'm not clear on why waiting to get married until after you finish school is a big deal when you are trying to get pregnant--I would think it would be much more difficult to finish school with a baby than it would be with a husband, but that must be something old people can't understand either.

But mostly...I am stunned that someone who REALLY loves another person would expect that person to do something sexual that makes them vomit.  That's way more than just greedy.  I don't get it.  Is that a young thing, too?

I suppose young folks nowadays have a different idea of love and respect and commitment then we did back in my day.

Off to have my prune juice and Geritol and head to bed.

[holly_b]

Umm I'm younger than you and I don't know what you mean by "wifey". I also think it's kind of mean to make jabs about some one's age when they were trying to help you. I actually thought RR gave good advice. You should listen to her since she's older and clearly more experienced than you. Good Luck.

[sara......]

Your user name is Wills wifey. And by the way, I agree with Rock rose, he is treating you awfully. I would dump him, or make him not be so selfish. Why would he want you to so things you don't want to do? Sound like abuse. And I don't think it's a 'young' think - age equals experience, I think RockRose is happily married.
Best of luck, Sara