Past

[Froglover08]

i really need some advice..., well me and my boyfriend have been together a pretty long time. i have only been sexual with one other person other than him. when ever something comes up about my past and other relationships he refuses to believe that i havent been sexual with them. he says he wont judge me and all this other stuff just to be honest with him. but the thing is... i am being honest that i havnt done anything. how do i get him to believe me and stop being so stubborn. i dont understand why he cant believe me. i have not given him a reason to not believe me. he tells me if i cant be real about the situations then we shouldnt be together. i fear im going to lose him over something im honestly telling the truth on..  i then ask why its such a big deal and he tells me that if i cant tell him the truth about something that happened when he was never around then what makes him think he can believe me now. does anyone have suggestions thank you so much

[treazzure007]

unless i'd given a person reason to believe i'd slept w/ a number of men or that i lied at times, i'd snap at him and tell him that you will not take anymore of him insulting/offending you.  maybe he's slept with 50 people, doesn't mean you have

[pcarsey]

Gosh! Good Luck! I know it must be frustrating to be honest with someone who no matter what does not believe a thing you say!

[Froglover08]

Thank you guys alot.. im really trying to work on it and see whats behind all of this. im glad i can use your advice and really get him to realize what he is doing. i will update if anything changes....!!!

[mami1323]

Other than what iambutterfly stated, there isn't much else you can do at this point.  If he chooses not to believe you than that's his own insecurities.  You can not keep trying to convince someone of your innocense if they insist on doubting you still.  This relationship will become irritating and exhausting.  If he is going to leave you then let him leave.  I know you love him but what else can you do?  Are you sure this is the only reason why he may not want to be with you?  I have a hard time believing that this would be a reason for wanting to break up with you.  It makes me wonder if he's deliberitely (sp.?) trying to push you away.  I would question his motives.  Good luck.

[iam1butterfly]

Tell him that by his refusal to believe you; he is judging you and, implying that you have something to hide... which you do not. Tell him, also, that you do not appreciate the implication that you are lying... which you are not. And, that you find his comments of disbelief to be both insulting and annoying... Explain to him that you have been "selective" in your choices which, accounts for him being only the 2nd man that you've had sex with. And, he should feel flattered and compliment you rather than wasting energy creating doubts, questions and silly suspicions.