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Pregnant ex-girlfriend wants to be single
Can anyone please help give some advice?
Hi everyone, I am single father of a wonderful 5 year old boy that means the world to me but I am going through a really hard time in my life, please do not judge me, Thanks.
I met my ex in January 2013 while I was working delivering to her workplace, we made eye contact and had a brief polite chat. As I was leaving the building, she approached me at my van and asked for my number. At the time I was 25 with one child with a previous partner, that was living with his mum and she was 32 with no children. On our first date, I explained my situation to her and she was very happy to date me. Our relationship got off to a great start wining and dining and was intimate within the first few weeks of dating. A few weeks after we met, I found out that she already knew my that my father because employed her as a social worker some years prior, so this made me think that she was a nice person. She the beginning of our relationship she seemed very exciting to be around, would like to spend money and was very caring too.
In early June 2013, my circumstances suddenly changed from being single father seeing my son every Wednesday and every other weekend, to being a full time single parent, because his mum could not cope with his behaviour anymore. This was very unexpected and hard for me to deal with because both of my parents were away on holiday at the time, which left just me to handle the situation. I had to stop working for several weeks to care for my 5 year old son by travelling across the city from north to south to school every morning & afternoon which took over an hour each way. I did what I thought was best as a father and began with the process of taking full custody of my son thought the legal system. My son is currently living with me at the moment and is very happy too.
In late June 2013, My current ex-girlfriend said to me that she was pregnant which came as a surprise to both of us. When she first told me that she was pregnant I was really supportive to her and told her that I will be there for her and our unborn child no matter what. I explained that it was not the best time for us to have a child due to my current situation with gaining custody over my first child and also her contract of her job was ending in October 2013, which would leave her unemployed and wouldn't be able live where she does, but I explained that I respected her decision and would stick by her on whatever she decides to do. I felt that it was my responsibility to be there as a father to our unborn child as I would never walk away from my own, and also support my ex-girlfriend as she had supported me when my son came to live with me. I had a lot of respect for her as she had stayed with me for three weeks at my house while my parents were away and supported me looking after my son.
The problems between is all started during July - I was living at my parents house and she was living by herself with flatmates. She asked me if we (my son, her and I) could find a place for us to live but at the time I thought it would have been to unsettling for my 5 year old child who has only just came to live at his daddy's house to have to move again within the near future. I was very reluctant at to have to move my son out of my house because of schooling and other issues and allow him the chance to settle down and it would have been confusing for him too. My ex girlfriend was very upset with me for this, which I can totally understand, but I explained to her that I wanted us to be a family and for her to be patient so I could find my son a new school which was close by and save up for a place for us in a reasonable amount of time, but she seemed to have wanted to move as soon as possible. I said to her she was more than welcome to stay at my house until we found a place together so we could be closer to each other and allow my son to slowly adjust and get comfortable with her. Plus she would not have to pay rent for her flat or at my house either. Not long after, she broke up with me without telling me because I did not agree to move my son in with her as she requested.
A week later we eventually had a chat about it and discussed a plan, which was to move somewhere near my sons new school which she agreed on. During that same week, my ex said that she wanted us to move between London and Dunstable so that she could be near to her mums. Things seemed okay for a week or so until one evening she explained that she wasn't feeling too well, and asked could I come over. I said yes I will be there to spend the evening with you, just let me put my son to bed first. A couple of hours past she said that everything is fine now, im going to bed - no need for you to come now, which I sensed she was angry at me because I did not com over straight away when she asked me to. I asked her if this was true and she said yes!! she was angry because I should have came over sooner regardless if I was putting my son to bed, which I though was very unreasonable and selfish. In her eyes this was the 3rd time she broke it up with me. On the Saturday she asked if I could come round because she wanted to borrow £50 because she did not have any money for the week. I came round on the saturday evening to give her money and she then told me that she wanted to be single and for her to have this child on her own. I was speechless and upset but decided to leave her house as I didn't want to hear her explanation on her decision. The next day she asked me to come and see her and if I could bring some food for her cravings. I came over with some food and reassured her that I did not want to leave her while she was pregnant. She agreed for us to try and work on our relationship and she also initiated intimacy with me that same day which we had.
The next day I got a text off her first thing in the morning saying that "she was going to live in Dunstable near her mums, with me or without me". After this she suddenly changed and ever since then she has been off with me.
I tried to show her support by doing things for her, giving her small gifts and small snacks, telling her that she is beautiful, driving her to work when she asked, cleaning up her puke, reassuring her by saying that everything will be okay and telling her that I love her all the time but nothing seemed to work.
12 weeks into her pregnancy I found had been suffering from depression (manic depression/bi-polar) for a few years prior to her pregnancy which she didn't tell me. Since she has become pregnant, she has stopped taking anti-depressence medication and stopped seeing her psychologist. When she was 12 weeks pregnant she told me that she wanted us to go on a break and for us to be single. When I lasted contacted her by calling her, she told me not to stop calling her and stop texting her. She has never acted like this towards me before and I was hoping that she didn't really mean it - but she did. She has asked for her space and I respect that. I did't want to overwhelm her by showing her too much interest as I want to do what she has asked, but at the same time - I did't want her to think that I have forgotten about her and lost interest. So I would text her once or twice a week to let her know that I was there if she needed, and if there was anything she needed, just let me know.
I am scared of losing the person that I have fell in love with because she meant the world to me but I feel that has already happened. I really wanted us to be together and do it the right way by doing everything possible for this to happen and start a family, but it feels like it is too late now.
Hi everyone, I am single father of a wonderful 5 year old boy that means the world to me but I am going through a really hard time in my life, please do not judge me, Thanks.
I met my ex in January 2013 while I was working delivering to her workplace, we made eye contact and had a brief polite chat. As I was leaving the building, she approached me at my van and asked for my number. At the time I was 25 with one child with a previous partner, that was living with his mum and she was 32 with no children. On our first date, I explained my situation to her and she was very happy to date me. Our relationship got off to a great start wining and dining and was intimate within the first few weeks of dating. A few weeks after we met, I found out that she already knew my that my father because employed her as a social worker some years prior, so this made me think that she was a nice person. She the beginning of our relationship she seemed very exciting to be around, would like to spend money and was very caring too.
In early June 2013, my circumstances suddenly changed from being single father seeing my son every Wednesday and every other weekend, to being a full time single parent, because his mum could not cope with his behaviour anymore. This was very unexpected and hard for me to deal with because both of my parents were away on holiday at the time, which left just me to handle the situation. I had to stop working for several weeks to care for my 5 year old son by travelling across the city from north to south to school every morning & afternoon which took over an hour each way. I did what I thought was best as a father and began with the process of taking full custody of my son thought the legal system. My son is currently living with me at the moment and is very happy too.
In late June 2013, My current ex-girlfriend said to me that she was pregnant which came as a surprise to both of us. When she first told me that she was pregnant I was really supportive to her and told her that I will be there for her and our unborn child no matter what. I explained that it was not the best time for us to have a child due to my current situation with gaining custody over my first child and also her contract of her job was ending in October 2013, which would leave her unemployed and wouldn't be able live where she does, but I explained that I respected her decision and would stick by her on whatever she decides to do. I felt that it was my responsibility to be there as a father to our unborn child as I would never walk away from my own, and also support my ex-girlfriend as she had supported me when my son came to live with me. I had a lot of respect for her as she had stayed with me for three weeks at my house while my parents were away and supported me looking after my son.
The problems between is all started during July - I was living at my parents house and she was living by herself with flatmates. She asked me if we (my son, her and I) could find a place for us to live but at the time I thought it would have been to unsettling for my 5 year old child who has only just came to live at his daddy's house to have to move again within the near future. I was very reluctant at to have to move my son out of my house because of schooling and other issues and allow him the chance to settle down and it would have been confusing for him too. My ex girlfriend was very upset with me for this, which I can totally understand, but I explained to her that I wanted us to be a family and for her to be patient so I could find my son a new school which was close by and save up for a place for us in a reasonable amount of time, but she seemed to have wanted to move as soon as possible. I said to her she was more than welcome to stay at my house until we found a place together so we could be closer to each other and allow my son to slowly adjust and get comfortable with her. Plus she would not have to pay rent for her flat or at my house either. Not long after, she broke up with me without telling me because I did not agree to move my son in with her as she requested.
A week later we eventually had a chat about it and discussed a plan, which was to move somewhere near my sons new school which she agreed on. During that same week, my ex said that she wanted us to move between London and Dunstable so that she could be near to her mums. Things seemed okay for a week or so until one evening she explained that she wasn't feeling too well, and asked could I come over. I said yes I will be there to spend the evening with you, just let me put my son to bed first. A couple of hours past she said that everything is fine now, im going to bed - no need for you to come now, which I sensed she was angry at me because I did not com over straight away when she asked me to. I asked her if this was true and she said yes!! she was angry because I should have came over sooner regardless if I was putting my son to bed, which I though was very unreasonable and selfish. In her eyes this was the 3rd time she broke it up with me. On the Saturday she asked if I could come round because she wanted to borrow £50 because she did not have any money for the week. I came round on the saturday evening to give her money and she then told me that she wanted to be single and for her to have this child on her own. I was speechless and upset but decided to leave her house as I didn't want to hear her explanation on her decision. The next day she asked me to come and see her and if I could bring some food for her cravings. I came over with some food and reassured her that I did not want to leave her while she was pregnant. She agreed for us to try and work on our relationship and she also initiated intimacy with me that same day which we had.
The next day I got a text off her first thing in the morning saying that "she was going to live in Dunstable near her mums, with me or without me". After this she suddenly changed and ever since then she has been off with me.
I tried to show her support by doing things for her, giving her small gifts and small snacks, telling her that she is beautiful, driving her to work when she asked, cleaning up her puke, reassuring her by saying that everything will be okay and telling her that I love her all the time but nothing seemed to work.
12 weeks into her pregnancy I found had been suffering from depression (manic depression/bi-polar) for a few years prior to her pregnancy which she didn't tell me. Since she has become pregnant, she has stopped taking anti-depressence medication and stopped seeing her psychologist. When she was 12 weeks pregnant she told me that she wanted us to go on a break and for us to be single. When I lasted contacted her by calling her, she told me not to stop calling her and stop texting her. She has never acted like this towards me before and I was hoping that she didn't really mean it - but she did. She has asked for her space and I respect that. I did't want to overwhelm her by showing her too much interest as I want to do what she has asked, but at the same time - I did't want her to think that I have forgotten about her and lost interest. So I would text her once or twice a week to let her know that I was there if she needed, and if there was anything she needed, just let me know.
I am scared of losing the person that I have fell in love with because she meant the world to me but I feel that has already happened. I really wanted us to be together and do it the right way by doing everything possible for this to happen and start a family, but it feels like it is too late now.
@TTinKKerBBell
Lol Yes I have "dodged a BIG bullet"
I can honestly say that I will learn from this and will NEVER make the same mistake again. I should have been more responsible and careful when dealing with this girl and should have been more cautious to prevent this situation from happening. I will not have any more children until i'm married with someone special and have settled down in a long term stable relationship.
Lol Yes I have "dodged a BIG bullet"
I can honestly say that I will learn from this and will NEVER make the same mistake again. I should have been more responsible and careful when dealing with this girl and should have been more cautious to prevent this situation from happening. I will not have any more children until i'm married with someone special and have settled down in a long term stable relationship.
Yes, You seem to have "dodged a BIG bullet"
Let this be a lesson to You.
In this day and age Men ought to realize They CAN be and SHOULD be responsible for Their own sperm and shouldn't be out there making Babies unless They are in a Stable, Long-Term Relationship.
Let this be a lesson to You.
In this day and age Men ought to realize They CAN be and SHOULD be responsible for Their own sperm and shouldn't be out there making Babies unless They are in a Stable, Long-Term Relationship.
Hi nursegirl6572,
Thank you for responding to my post. I was unaware that her condition was this extreme. After she had become pregnant she explained that she had stopped seeing her psychologist and suddenly stopped her medication that her doctor told her to reduce the amount of dosage. She has suffered from insomnia in the past and has claimed that a couple of years prior she was suffering symptoms such as hearing things and seeing things that weren't there. She told me that the medication she once took were Lithium and the doctor switched it to Prozac. I can see that the characteristics that she has shown clearly relate to bi-Polar disorder. eg. Excessive spending sprees which she is currently in debt which pay day loan companies, Poor judgment by always rushing into making decisions quickly, Irrational behaviour by her constant mood swings, Behaving impulsively, taking part in a lot of pleasurable, high-risk behaviours, impulsive sex, and Hyper sexuality which I later found out that she had unprotected sex with guys she rarely or didn't even know, impulsive business investment which I found that she had bought a box of satin knickers to sell it used online, jumping from one idea to another and having racing thoughts.
A month ago she was refereed to the social services because she had self harmed my cutting her arm (which she does have a lot of scares in the same place on her arm) and was told that the social services will monitor the child once the child was born.
I think you are right to say that I have dodged a BIG bullet. Just feel so bad for her that this situation has become like this. I have noticed that she seems very happy at the moment from the excitement that she has telling everyone she is pregnant but I don't know if it is really a front to cover up her true emotions. I really do hope she gets the help and support she needs, fir her sake and especially for the child's.
Thank you again for your advice. I really do appreciate it.
Take care of yourself.
Thank you for responding to my post. I was unaware that her condition was this extreme. After she had become pregnant she explained that she had stopped seeing her psychologist and suddenly stopped her medication that her doctor told her to reduce the amount of dosage. She has suffered from insomnia in the past and has claimed that a couple of years prior she was suffering symptoms such as hearing things and seeing things that weren't there. She told me that the medication she once took were Lithium and the doctor switched it to Prozac. I can see that the characteristics that she has shown clearly relate to bi-Polar disorder. eg. Excessive spending sprees which she is currently in debt which pay day loan companies, Poor judgment by always rushing into making decisions quickly, Irrational behaviour by her constant mood swings, Behaving impulsively, taking part in a lot of pleasurable, high-risk behaviours, impulsive sex, and Hyper sexuality which I later found out that she had unprotected sex with guys she rarely or didn't even know, impulsive business investment which I found that she had bought a box of satin knickers to sell it used online, jumping from one idea to another and having racing thoughts.
A month ago she was refereed to the social services because she had self harmed my cutting her arm (which she does have a lot of scares in the same place on her arm) and was told that the social services will monitor the child once the child was born.
I think you are right to say that I have dodged a BIG bullet. Just feel so bad for her that this situation has become like this. I have noticed that she seems very happy at the moment from the excitement that she has telling everyone she is pregnant but I don't know if it is really a front to cover up her true emotions. I really do hope she gets the help and support she needs, fir her sake and especially for the child's.
Thank you again for your advice. I really do appreciate it.
Take care of yourself.
WOW!
Your ex displays very clear symptoms of a very poor managed bi-polar disorder. She needs some serious help. You have your son to consider. I agree completely that severing all ties with her in a relationship sense is wise, and pursue her legally for access to your child. Demand a paternity test at the time of the child's birth, then work with a lawyer to determine custody and child support.
Hate to say it, but I think you dodged a big bullet with this one. I hope she gets the help she needs, for the sake of the child.
Take care and good luck!
Your ex displays very clear symptoms of a very poor managed bi-polar disorder. She needs some serious help. You have your son to consider. I agree completely that severing all ties with her in a relationship sense is wise, and pursue her legally for access to your child. Demand a paternity test at the time of the child's birth, then work with a lawyer to determine custody and child support.
Hate to say it, but I think you dodged a big bullet with this one. I hope she gets the help she needs, for the sake of the child.
Take care and good luck!
@ TTinKKerBBell
Thank you so much for your reply.. I think you are totally right, my son and I do not need this in our lives. She does not have any self respect, Standards or Integrity to be a good Wife or a good Step Mum. Women that have respect for themselves and the ones close by them do not act in this type of way. It was probably in God's will that it ended sooner rather than later for the best. I feel that God did allow for us to be together for a reason and has planned for me to have a better life WITHOUT her in it.
Thank you again for your response!
Take care!!
Thank you so much for your reply.. I think you are totally right, my son and I do not need this in our lives. She does not have any self respect, Standards or Integrity to be a good Wife or a good Step Mum. Women that have respect for themselves and the ones close by them do not act in this type of way. It was probably in God's will that it ended sooner rather than later for the best. I feel that God did allow for us to be together for a reason and has planned for me to have a better life WITHOUT her in it.
Thank you again for your response!
Take care!!
This woman has major issues!!
and You and Your 5 Year Old Son DO NOT need this in Your lives!! She does not have the Standards and Integrity to be a good Step Mom and a good Wife.
PLEASE move on for His sake and for Your own!
(I agree with ROSY: this is a "doozy")
Regards,
TTinKK
Thank you for your reply, I was thinking the exact same thing, I will most definitely keep you posted!
Take care of yourself.
Take care of yourself.
WOW! This is a doozy! My heart goes out to you! I think the only viable option you have is JUST MOVE ON! For your sake and sanity! She doesn't care or she wouldn't be doing all these things to you! Best of luck to you and please keep us updated on how it goes!
To be continued.
After seeing these things that she was doing I was upset, angry and concerned about what I had saw. The evening before the 12 week scan I confronted her about it and told her what I had saw. She then removed all the images of herself that was uploaded and changed the details on the profile page. During the phone conversation we had a argument and I regrettably said some things to her which I shouldn't have said out of anger that really upset her. The next day I attended the doctors at the time of her appointment. She did not allow me to come into the room, so I waited outside quietly and politely until it was over and I left the hospital very upset. Her mum approached me when I was leaving and gave me a hug and said" I know you love her, but you have to leave her alone because she is very stressed out" I explained to her mum "that I have tried so much but I have been pushed away so much that I can no longer continue to be there for her."
Three weeks later I was was working and had a delivery at my ex's workplace. As I was leaving the building I saw her entering it but we did not speak. She seemed ****** off with me and walked straight pass me so I left and carried on my duties. Without knowing she decided to call the police on me and claimed that I had harassed her and tried to speak to her at her workplace. I later found out that that she already reported me to the police for accessing her email account which she had left open on my computer.
Later that same day, I went to her house in the evening to speak to her, mainly to say sorry for what has happened. She again decided to call the police and got me arrested for harassing her even though I was never warned not to contact her. Not only that: A week later I was arrested again because she alleged that I had somehow followed her from her house to her work place. She claims that she saw me walk pass her on the opposite side of the road work on my way to go swimming and I walked straight passed her, even though I did not approach her, contact her her or even see her.
Since this has happened she has left her flat n job and has now moved out of town to live near her mums house which she wanted to do all along. I feel so bad that it has got to this stage and never wanted any of this to ever happen. I wish I could turn back the hands of time and handle this situation better.
I honestly am going through a tough time in my young life. I am truly of some of my actions towards her which has contributed in this outcome. I am trying to move on with my life and accept that our relationship is over. The only thing I can do is be the best father for my lil boy and to forget about her completely. I regret to say it but the only option I have is to leave her and the unborn child to get on with their lives. I am not going to contact my ex as advised nor will I try to do it through the legal system. I have tried to make it work and for us to be a loving family but have failed dramatically. I know that the child is not to blame for any of this and never asked to be born. I feel that the child will be better off not knowing who I am for now or when they are older enough they will be able to choose to see their father if they choose not to. I would love to be there for our child and be in their in their life completely 24/7 and be a full time daddy but don't think it is fair for our child to only see its father for a limited period ie. every other weekend.
If there is anyone out there that can help me, I would really appreciate it.
Many Thanks!!!
After seeing these things that she was doing I was upset, angry and concerned about what I had saw. The evening before the 12 week scan I confronted her about it and told her what I had saw. She then removed all the images of herself that was uploaded and changed the details on the profile page. During the phone conversation we had a argument and I regrettably said some things to her which I shouldn't have said out of anger that really upset her. The next day I attended the doctors at the time of her appointment. She did not allow me to come into the room, so I waited outside quietly and politely until it was over and I left the hospital very upset. Her mum approached me when I was leaving and gave me a hug and said" I know you love her, but you have to leave her alone because she is very stressed out" I explained to her mum "that I have tried so much but I have been pushed away so much that I can no longer continue to be there for her."
Three weeks later I was was working and had a delivery at my ex's workplace. As I was leaving the building I saw her entering it but we did not speak. She seemed ****** off with me and walked straight pass me so I left and carried on my duties. Without knowing she decided to call the police on me and claimed that I had harassed her and tried to speak to her at her workplace. I later found out that that she already reported me to the police for accessing her email account which she had left open on my computer.
Later that same day, I went to her house in the evening to speak to her, mainly to say sorry for what has happened. She again decided to call the police and got me arrested for harassing her even though I was never warned not to contact her. Not only that: A week later I was arrested again because she alleged that I had somehow followed her from her house to her work place. She claims that she saw me walk pass her on the opposite side of the road work on my way to go swimming and I walked straight passed her, even though I did not approach her, contact her her or even see her.
Since this has happened she has left her flat n job and has now moved out of town to live near her mums house which she wanted to do all along. I feel so bad that it has got to this stage and never wanted any of this to ever happen. I wish I could turn back the hands of time and handle this situation better.
I honestly am going through a tough time in my young life. I am truly of some of my actions towards her which has contributed in this outcome. I am trying to move on with my life and accept that our relationship is over. The only thing I can do is be the best father for my lil boy and to forget about her completely. I regret to say it but the only option I have is to leave her and the unborn child to get on with their lives. I am not going to contact my ex as advised nor will I try to do it through the legal system. I have tried to make it work and for us to be a loving family but have failed dramatically. I know that the child is not to blame for any of this and never asked to be born. I feel that the child will be better off not knowing who I am for now or when they are older enough they will be able to choose to see their father if they choose not to. I would love to be there for our child and be in their in their life completely 24/7 and be a full time daddy but don't think it is fair for our child to only see its father for a limited period ie. every other weekend.
If there is anyone out there that can help me, I would really appreciate it.
Many Thanks!!!
to be continued...
I wanted to do something romantic with her as soon as she has come round to talking with me again, but I rushed it because I wanted to make her happy again. So I decided to propose to her and show her that actions do speak louder than words. I really hoped she'd say yes - but she declined and now will never have the opportunity of having a family with her and our child. As you could imagine I did not take it very well and was heartbroken and devastated. I really wanted her to be my wife because she meant a lot to me and I want us to settle down and for our child to have a great future but I am so upset right now, and feel that I have lost her completely.
What is really troubling was the things that she has said and done to me and also some of the things I have found out about her. After we had broke up I did not understand why she had acted that way and if it was based on hormones or was it something much deeper than that, like her mental health issues. I regret doing this but I repeatedly got access into her email accounts because I did not trust her actions or that the child is even mine which she claims to be. The things that have been concerning are:
1. During her pregnancy she asked me if I wanted to have a 3sum with her and another girl, which I didn't want to because I had feelings for her and didn't want to be intimate with another girl or for her to be either. I am not into swinging and feel that a relationship should be exclusive between two people. I asked her why would you want to share me with another girl and said that "it kinda turned her on thinking about it during her pregnancy." She explained that she was bisexual and has had a few 3sums in the past. I have later found out the has had ffm 3sums with 5 different couples and was always the one in the middle of these couples. (I keep thinking that if she has done this in the past - what will stop her from wanting to do it in the future). She then asked me if I knew any one that would want want to meet up with us and engage in a 3sum, but later said that I wouldn't want it to be someone that you already knew. So she asked a friend which lived out of the city, but the girl replied "I am in a relationship." Her friend then asked her "if you and your partner want to meet up with me and my boyfriend", so technically a foursome. When she told me this, I was upset that you would even think about doing a thing like this, especially when she is pregnant.
2. Around mid July, my ex told me that she wanted to make some extra money on the side as she was about to stop working within the next two months. I asked what would that be? She replied that "she was going to sell her used underwear for money online." I thought what a stupid idea, who's gonna buy girls underwear for money (weirdos) and took no notion of it. I later found out a couple of weeks later when I looked into her emails that she already had set up an account and had uploaded some provocative pictures of herself in different outfits (nurse,corsets etc) on this profile page. She was communicating with other (buyers) men and with them asking her if they could buy her used panties and also asking if she could make a video to show her playing with herself. At first she replied back to these buyers saying:
Hi!! I'm not doing videos just yet but if you want my used panties with my *** inside let me know xx
then a two days later she replied back to a least 3 (buyers) people negotiating a price to expose herself in an explicit way by saying things like:
Hey honey. I'm almost set up and ready to make some videos now. I'm charging between £2/3 a minute depending on what your request is. Wanna see me play with my wet puxxy and *** for you? If so, hit me up xxx
"Hey xxxx. I'm getting wet thinking about how excited you got looking at me. It really turns me on. If I *** in my panties will you buy them and sniff them while you play with your hard cxxk? xxx"
Let me know what exactly you want and I'll get a video made for you asap xxx
A vid would be £2/3 a minute depending on what you wanted to see. What do you like? x
3. During the last few weeks, I have noticed that she is speaking to other people and guys on social network sites in explicit sexual convos, saying how much of a d^ckh3ad I am to all of her friends and how she is going to use the CSA to hit me hard. She has spoken to people that she don't even know in sexual way, more than she has spoken to me in the last two months!
I wanted to do something romantic with her as soon as she has come round to talking with me again, but I rushed it because I wanted to make her happy again. So I decided to propose to her and show her that actions do speak louder than words. I really hoped she'd say yes - but she declined and now will never have the opportunity of having a family with her and our child. As you could imagine I did not take it very well and was heartbroken and devastated. I really wanted her to be my wife because she meant a lot to me and I want us to settle down and for our child to have a great future but I am so upset right now, and feel that I have lost her completely.
What is really troubling was the things that she has said and done to me and also some of the things I have found out about her. After we had broke up I did not understand why she had acted that way and if it was based on hormones or was it something much deeper than that, like her mental health issues. I regret doing this but I repeatedly got access into her email accounts because I did not trust her actions or that the child is even mine which she claims to be. The things that have been concerning are:
1. During her pregnancy she asked me if I wanted to have a 3sum with her and another girl, which I didn't want to because I had feelings for her and didn't want to be intimate with another girl or for her to be either. I am not into swinging and feel that a relationship should be exclusive between two people. I asked her why would you want to share me with another girl and said that "it kinda turned her on thinking about it during her pregnancy." She explained that she was bisexual and has had a few 3sums in the past. I have later found out the has had ffm 3sums with 5 different couples and was always the one in the middle of these couples. (I keep thinking that if she has done this in the past - what will stop her from wanting to do it in the future). She then asked me if I knew any one that would want want to meet up with us and engage in a 3sum, but later said that I wouldn't want it to be someone that you already knew. So she asked a friend which lived out of the city, but the girl replied "I am in a relationship." Her friend then asked her "if you and your partner want to meet up with me and my boyfriend", so technically a foursome. When she told me this, I was upset that you would even think about doing a thing like this, especially when she is pregnant.
2. Around mid July, my ex told me that she wanted to make some extra money on the side as she was about to stop working within the next two months. I asked what would that be? She replied that "she was going to sell her used underwear for money online." I thought what a stupid idea, who's gonna buy girls underwear for money (weirdos) and took no notion of it. I later found out a couple of weeks later when I looked into her emails that she already had set up an account and had uploaded some provocative pictures of herself in different outfits (nurse,corsets etc) on this profile page. She was communicating with other (buyers) men and with them asking her if they could buy her used panties and also asking if she could make a video to show her playing with herself. At first she replied back to these buyers saying:
Hi!! I'm not doing videos just yet but if you want my used panties with my *** inside let me know xx
then a two days later she replied back to a least 3 (buyers) people negotiating a price to expose herself in an explicit way by saying things like:
Hey honey. I'm almost set up and ready to make some videos now. I'm charging between £2/3 a minute depending on what your request is. Wanna see me play with my wet puxxy and *** for you? If so, hit me up xxx
"Hey xxxx. I'm getting wet thinking about how excited you got looking at me. It really turns me on. If I *** in my panties will you buy them and sniff them while you play with your hard cxxk? xxx"
Let me know what exactly you want and I'll get a video made for you asap xxx
A vid would be £2/3 a minute depending on what you wanted to see. What do you like? x
3. During the last few weeks, I have noticed that she is speaking to other people and guys on social network sites in explicit sexual convos, saying how much of a d^ckh3ad I am to all of her friends and how she is going to use the CSA to hit me hard. She has spoken to people that she don't even know in sexual way, more than she has spoken to me in the last two months!
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