Hi there and welcome. Well, you have some thinking to do. We are with our partners for a variety of reasons. I do think sexual compatibility is important and it doesn't sound like you are sexually compatible. She may have some hang ups about sexual things as she is a virgin and maybe views all sexual contact before marriage as something that she should avoid or has guilt about it, etc. have you ever talked to her about that?
We've had posters the past couple of days who like that a woman is or was a virgin when they met them but then are shocked that they aren't overtly sexual before marriage with them. These two things do kind of go together for me. You can't 'test the waters' and find out if you are sexually compatible when you are dating a virgin.
So, you have to go by what you do have in the relationship. You want sexual contact more than she does. If this is a deal breaker for you, then break the deal. Get it over with so both of you can move on and find someone you'll have a more fulfilling sex life with. good luck
As ever SpecialMom gives excellent advice
That being said, I'm often baffled by what one thinks means "virginity"?? Does that term apply simply when the hymen is intact?? - but all else, anything else, is a "go" ?? I totally do not understand when one is willing to give or receive oral sex that one is still considered a "virgin". In my thinking oral sex IS sex and is AS intimate as intercourse. Personally I would re-think the values (selfishness??) here, and I agree this does not sound like a 'good match' certainly not "soul mate" material.
I too, wish You GoodLuck in Your decision
Hi also, the bigger issue here is that she is the dominant one in the relationship and setting the standards. It will only get worse and you may find yourself chasing her for many years only to find that she prefers manly men and is only with you because it feeds her power. It doesnot appear she respects you at all.
You can test the waters by stop giving her the oral and see where that leads you.
Been there, done that.
Not sexually compatible and it sounds like that is a deal breaker for you. Plus she has made it very clear that she isn't budging, so why stick around?