Never tried this successfully, and personally I have to admit that that I generally feel a seperation is paramount to a death knell but I have one friend who him and his wife have been together for about 20 yrs now, and they have seperated and each time gotten together stronger than before.
Don't quite understand it but I hope it is this way for you.
Well, my husband and I separated once for 10 months. I think it helped us, but like Sam said, I think that's rare. Often times when you are separated, you tend to grow apart. We still did things together. I mean, we were still together. We just didn't live together for a while, but my husband did get an apartment close to where our house was so he could help me with the kids. See, I had just started back to work 2 months prior to our separating after staying home for 2 years, so it went from me always taking care of the kids to me having a demanding job and having to share in that responsibility. And that's why I think it helped us. It got us working as a team instead of dictating what was what person's job. We had to work together, which was something we weren't really good at before our separation.
"His stated reasons are to find out if he can take care of himself and not be dependent on a woman." im sorry but this sounds like a crock of **** to me. he's probably experiencing mid-life crisis.
technically, those days are over after a man becomes married and leaves bachelorhood. if he gave up bachelorhood too early in his idea, then toughtitty. marriage is all about partnership, friendship, co-this and co-that, taking care of each other and depending on each other. i would assume if a husband told me this, then he doesn't want to be married anymore period
Thank you, all three of you, for your thoughtful comments. For every "don't give up hope" I have gotten a "give the boy the boot", from my friends and family. I was hoping more folks who have actually tried it themselves would respond. I'll try posting on the divorce group!
Thanks again :-)
I truly believe he is doing it to have an affair, which he thinks will be a 3-month thrill, after which he expects he will want to return to the comforts of home.
Thank you for your reply. I hope against hope you are wrong, but there is always the possibility....
I always like to think the best of most people. But, the man's in his 50's. If he hasn't figured out that he want's to be with you full time, I would have to assume he's looking into something else to occupy his time. Maybe it's the guy he's renting the room from...