Ugh, are you asking if your husband is a pedophile having an incestuous relationship with his daughter? You really think that? It's not his daughter's fault that the relationship is like that . . . she learned how to act around dad by . . .DAD. This is the problem I see. You view her as another woman in his life. That's not really the case. She's his child. And if you were her mother, she'd be no threat to you whatsoever and if you thought he was inappropriately touching her, you'd be out of there to protect HER. You married a man who has a close relationship with his daughter. You find it too close. You've vocalized it and he's said he isn't interested in changing or your opinion. That's it. You either get over it or move on. That's hard and I'm not being unempathetic. But I'm a mom of sons. I'm really affectionate with them. They are with me. Some families are like that and it's not a bad thing. But it makes you uncomfortable. If it is because you think your husband is sexually attracted to his daughter, get out of there. He's a creep. Call the authorities if she is a minor. By the way, how old is she? Do you feel insecure about your husband's love for you? Just curious. We ARE here to help so please do not take my post to be anything but wanting to help you resolve this.
You can be close to your kids but at least be dressed. My dad would of never laced his fingers under my breasts or come into my room while i was in my bra, let alone stayed in there. It is pretty common for a step child to not like the step parent. They look at us like we destroyed their mom and dad's marriage. It makes it even more difficult when the father doesnt help the situation out. You have some decisions to make here, something only you can do. I would be more concerned about their behavior together than her not liking you at this point. That usually goes away after awhile. How old is this girl?
Front the beginning when her father and I got together her exact words was she didn't like me and she didn't care if I was with her dad, but she didn't want me and him kissing in front of her. This girl is now 19 years old. And this has been going on since she was 14. The pictures has been of him standing directly behind her with his hands interlocked directly underneath her breast, to strattling her in the snow, and flirt taps. The neighbors has told me that they act more as a couple type of thing more than daughter/ father relationship. When I address the situation at hand he is more worried about fighting with the family. He doesn't like it when she gets a bf, and so fourth. I can't just blame the father, because it's both parties. She makes points to do things inappropriate in front of him also. Their behavior together, just like I said, they act as if they were the ones in the relationship than hisself and I. She will make times when she tries to get him along in her room and when I come around she gets pissed and says I'm always up his ***. But really I'm not. I'm just standing inside his families home by myself alone. And that makes me feel uncomfortable, so I go stand at her bedroom door and she gets mad. She tries to be secretive all the time. He makes arguments so he can go to his families house when's she is over there, which he is more than welcome to go anytime, but he waits until a she's home to cause the argument like he has something to hide. When we argue, he tells me I'm jealous of her, and my exact words are, if there isn't anything going on what's there to be jealous of? And he's had me to dye my hair like hers, mentioned me to get boob enlargements like hers, etc. now someone I talked too, has told me that he must be fetishing over his daughter, to look into it. I don't know what to do? Any help..?
I am sorry you are going thru this first and foremost. The more you told about this situation the sicker it became. This behavior has been going on long before you entered the picture. Any father who has feelings like this for his daughter needs serious help. This is way too messed up. I know it is hard to leave a situation but this one is not good and very unhealthy. I know your self esteem is in question and that is normal. Please look into some options for you. Your husband is a very sick man. I hope his daughter can get the help she needs from his emotional and physical abuse. We are concerned for you so please stick around and keep talking to us~
No that type of behavior is not normal. It sounds like that family is very dysfunctional. Do you have children of your own?
I still see a lot of focus on the daughter. The issue is your husband. I agree with Dominosarah's sentiments that leaving a relationship can be hard. But I don't think I could be with a man who I feared had attraction to his daughter. That's gross. There's not really much more to say on my part. Other than I would not continue to demonize the girl when it is her dad that continues participating. He likely started it and he keeps it going. Your man is the problem. I too have empathy for you as it's really hard to acknowledge this and disrupt life in such a huge way to leave someone. But I see no other way to resolve the issue. good luck
HI there, sorry you're dealing with such a difficult issue. Did the step daughter get a breast augmentation? if so, at what age? If so, what was her cup size before she had surgery and what is it now? Did your husband ask you specifically to :get a breast augmentation to the same size as his daughters"?
Number one, if it were me, knowing that the step daughter disrespects you so much in your own home, i would refuse to attend gatherings at the step daughters home, that's for sure.
Your last comment seemed to say that your husband now has realized that it's inappropriate for his daughter to be in front of him (wearing a bra and no shirt) but that he can't do anything about it and that he got defensive. Does the girl wear her bra only in front of the rest of the family? Does she have any step brothers that she wears her bra only in front of, or is your husband the only male around that she wears her bra only? So it seems that things have begun to change, if at least he is willing to admit that there is a problem and that's at least going in the right direction.
No matter what, this is wrong and you are not overreacting. He needs serious help and so does the daughter.