My family (father, stepmother, sister, brother, etc) has alienated me

[Cles51]

My family has alienated me and I am not sure why. First of all, my sister and I used to be very close then it all changed when she married a man who is narcissistic. In the beginning we continued to communicate after she moved in with him. She knew I didn't like him and there are many reasons why. EX: reading of my mother will. They were dating for just a few weeks. He went in to the reading of the will and did most of the talking. Everyone was not too pleased with him since it was none of his business. He acted like the will was being read to him. Needless to say my sister got everything. House, car, money, items in the house etc. My mother did not love my brother and I And we all knew that. She loved my sister. I even found a letter in the basement where she wrote about that. My brother is an angry man and talks to no one. He has alienated everyone but mostly me and the only reason I know is that we did not get along as kids. He was just so angry all the time. He used to beat the crap out of me. Now neither one of them will call me or email me. I call them but they never call back. I email them and they never reply. I recently had a traumatic brain injury (4th in 14 years) and they did not seem concerned at all. My stepmother is an evil woman and she is pitting everyone against me especially my Dad. My Dad is the only one who calls me but he can never talk. The conversations are very brief. I have also been diagnosed with PTSD due to my childhood. My mother was a narcissist and lied. When I was in 3rd grade I had beautiful long blondish white hair parted down the middle. I loved my hair. During the summer my mother told me she was going to cut my hair. I was crying and throwing a fit. She put me on a stool and placed a bowl on my head and cut around it. I was so upset it was hard to contain myself. I have a round face and the bowl cut made me look awful. A couple of weeks later my mother came home from the wig makers with two hairpieces of my hair. She said "look what I made out of your hair!". She was so proud and thought I would be too. It made me sick! This was in the 60's and she made a fall and a wiglet. She liked to wear them on dates with my Dad and such. She was one woman you could not trust and did not have the kids best interest in mind. My Dad didn't even remember the haircut! I told him how can you not remember that my hair was long one day and a bowl cut the same day. My gave birth to my sister when I was 11. A few months later my parents divorced. I had to take sole responsibility of my baby sister. My mother put the baby in my room along with changing table etc. I had to get up every couple of hours to feed her, change her diaper and so on. I was only 11 and was so tired at school I could not keep my grades up. When my report card came I was punished, told I was lazy and stupid. They couldn't put two and two together. Then a couple years later my mother walked out on us but brought the baby with her. She told my brother and I that she had enough and to call my father because she wasn't coming back. My father moved in. All he did was travel all the time so we never really saw him. Then my father got a job in Atlanta and my brother moved with him. I had to stay because I had a boyfriend I was in love with so I stayed with my mother. Not a good idea. She found a compazine pill on my dresser and put me in an old mental hospital for 2 1/2 months. It was just horrible! I felt like I have been betrayed by family my whole life. I know I have changed since all my recent concussion but I just wish my family would talk to me. Should I just give up or keep trying? When I keep trying and get no feedback it makes me feel worse. I am trying to be so hopeful that things will change.

[Londres70]

Oh my.......you are carrying all this around and you've been carrying all this around for years.   Have you sought any therapy at all? If not, seek it immediately.  You need to release this "stuff."

Secondly, sounds like you are better off not dealing with these people who are supposed to be family because they really aren't.  They sound
terrible and toxic.  Accept that because it is the truth.  

Focus on your life and healing from all this.  Do you have your own family, i.e. children, husband?

[Life360_Dave]

Hi, if i were you i would just rest in the fact that you did your best to get along with your family and leave it at that. It does not appear there is much family love on their part.