Should I keep trying to make this work if he isn't?

[Charlie1337]

My boyfriend and I moved in together last year and thinks were great initially. I recently found out I have genital herpes and this has taken a great toll on our sexual relationship, and thus our relationship in general. (for the record, I didnt cheat or anything, it just finally decided to show itself.) I feel like he hasn't been supportive of me, that he keeps trying to initiate sex when he knows I am unable to due to outbreaks, and then gets upset with me when I turn him down. I have finally told him that I am just unhappy with our relationship, and we need to do something to get back on track, because we have hit a disconnect somewhere and if it keeps going like this, we aren't going to work out. I have told him exactly what I need from him. He has just shut down. we have gone for 2 days now without a word to each other, and the night I told him I was unhappy, he decided to go out with his friends after, telling me "that I shouldnt worry about him leaving me".

Basically my issue is that something needs to change, and I either feel like he isnt taking this seriously, or he just doesn't care, or know how to fix it. I need some help to figure out if we should seek counseling, or any ideas as to how we can reconnect, or if I should just walk away at this point. I know he loves me but then if he did, i believe he should be considerably more proactive in fixing our issues than sitting on the couch watching Sharkweek. Any input helps.

[kay2486]

you need the councilling,  this outbreak has really messed your head up hasnt it?
it sounds like hes really trying with you and you are pushing him away.

have you been treated for the herpes? would this help if you got treatment?

why arent you happy?

[AnnieBrooke]

Seek counseling or walk away.  Don't sit around blaming him, it's not productive.  If he won't go to counseling with you, go yourself.  Walking away should be done only when you are sure you can't do anything else, but it's an OK option when nothing else works.