Hi there and welcome. Well, you really don't sound happy. I'm sorry about that. Is it worth it? When fighting dominates things and gets so dirty and ugly, I think that a relationship may have run its course. Do you feel a sense of relief at the thought of moving back? If so, go with it. Know you'll be sad in the process but relationships aren't supposed to be THIS hard. good luck
I think that you and she should discuss therapy together. Many relationships, especially young people, can benefit by way of a mentor in their relationship. As far as where you're living, that's not set in stone, and if you two are working on your relationship, its not a stretch that you might move to somewhere different where you can both be happy.
it's up to you to decide if you want to give it "a good college try" or not.
In my opinion, all you can look forward to is more change as you grow and mature. Trying to stick with a relationship that began before you finished high school throughout all the changes you will naturally experience in the next 5 years is tough.
I think you should move and end things.
I do feel relief at the thought of moving back, however I do not really see myself with another girl as i do feel strongly for her and I would hate to move and end things and that be the wrong choice.
Have you had an experience similar to this or know someone who did? I would hate to move and end it and that end up being a mistake.
The fact you've gone through all this for/with her says a lot. I've been in a similar situation, & I left. The guy followed me eventually. 1 Thing I've learned about relationships over time, is that, if it's worth it-for both of you-you'll wind up back together eventually. The main concern is whether you're strong enough to change the destructive patterns you've fallen into. This should be the best time in your LIFE sexwise, & you're ALWAYS deprived?
Oh, HELL NO. DO NOT GET HER PREGNANT OR YOU MAY NOT GET ANY, LOL, sorry, ahem, but true.
If you love her, YOU stop the sex & focus on going to relationship therapy together.
If she's not willing to do that, NOTHING will ever change, for sure,& you will remain miserable. There's plenty of time for that when you're old & dying.
You sound like the one always following her. See if she's really that in2 you by insisting on healthy change!
There's a lot of others girls in the world,& the 1x a month sex deal at THIS AGE?
Hi. It does often take time to get over someone. It really does. It's best to get really busy, don't date anyone for a bit, and work on yourself when a break happens. It hurts but ultimately, you have to pick someone that you will be happy long term with and that is the hard thing--- when you have problems like you describe, it's hard to keep that going forever. Finding a better suited partner down the road is motivation to let go of someone you care about now.
I've cared about old boyfriends. Loved them dearly when we were together. BUT, I love my husband now and do not regret one second of ending those earlier relationships. We learn from them. And that person will always be special. We just may not be a right fit with them. goodluck