Hi all and apologies for the long winded question in advance. I need some advice as I can't seem to work out where I'm at with this predicament.
My girl and I have been together 6 years now. We are in our mid-30s.
We are the best of friends, but over the last couple of years and romanticism has pretty much dissipated. We have an awesome time when we're together, talking freely about all sorts of things, engaging in activities we both like to do, hanging out with mutual friends etc. We basically have no issues whatsoever with having a fun time together (quite often fuelled by alcohol, though I think that's irrelevant here). We very rarely fight, and if we do it's resolved immediately. We are both mature emotionally intelligent people.
We have done a lot of global travel over the last 3 years, basically having traveled the globe for about 12 months of it, and having an awesome time together doing it (again much of it involved tasting local alcoholic beverages in exotic places). We even got engaged in Egypt. Though after 12 months of being engaged and neither of us seeming particularly interested in the actual act of marriage, she gave my ring back and without actually saying it we amicably annulled the engagement...
We have been home from our last 3 month trip for 8 months now, and she has failed to find any employment yet, which has put somewhat of a strain on the financial position of our household. Thankfully I earn pretty good money (albeit in a job that doesn't make me overly happy or challenge me at all), so we've been able to maintain our lifestyle without too much of an issue, though I do feel resentful at times being the sole breadwinner now. She has been actively looking for work in the industry all these months with no luck. I often wonder how hard she is actually trying, though she would swear she spends may hours each day looking for work. She also had no hobbies and not many friends, so is home almost all the time. She is a social being though with our mutual friends.
Lately our sex life has almost completely dwindled away, seemingly from both parties lost interest. We are now down to having sex once a month at best, sometimes as long as once every two months. For fit and healthy people in our mid-30s, that seems a little extreme.
I am a sexual person, and constantly find myself sexually attracted to other women (though not acting on it.... mostly), so I don't think there's any actual loss of sexual drive at least on my part.
We do regularly snuggle on the couch watching a movie, but it's far from sexual snuggling.
* She has also almost completely lost interest in exercise and gained a bit of weight, making it even harder for me to find her attractive.
I guess with this background, the crux of this post is that I'm considering whether I should be in this relationship or not. As you can imagine after 6 years together, our lives and possessions are deeply entwined. We also have a cat (though thankfully no kids). I'd love to hear some opinions on this, as I'm a bit lost in the complexity of the situation and I'm not sure if being best friends with some can outweigh the almost complete lack of sexual and romantic intimacy.
Thanks in advance for all your help :-)