Should I warn her about him?

[allyma]

I was seeing a man for four months.  We were in a relationship for some periods and then more "relaxed" later on.  When he asked for this, I said I didn't mind him looking for someone else but that I was out as soon as he did.  It was more on his wishes than mine.    At some point over this period he slept with one or two other women and neglected to tell me, and finally chose to end our arrangement by staging me walking in on his new girlfriend and him half naked.  He knew I was trusting him a great deal on the sexual monogamy front because, as I am on long term contraception and we both tested clean for STIs, we were having sex without condoms after the first month.   Gradually over the last two months with him I accumulated a wealth of knowledge of his past.  He's 20 years old, he has had clamydia, has got a girl pregnant, has potentially taken advantage of one of his female friends by sleeping with her shortly after a close family death on her side, and has slept with approximately 36 women.  I have asked to see STI test results from him dated to shortly after our last encounter and though he insists he has had them and is clean refuses to show me the paperwork. Naturally I'm getting tested, and realise that I've made a huge mistake in trusting him.  My question is this:
A close (and trustworthy) friend has told me the new woman in his life is a very nice person strong morals, and I think I have a way of privately getting in touch with her.  Should I try and warn her of his true nature?

[cheshchesh819]

You escaped it in the nick of time whoever chooses to be with him now is their choice,nothing you would say would change their minds,like you they will figure him out.

[allyma]

General consensus seems to be not to speak.  I guess I bite my tongue and wish her good luck with him.

[RockRose]

Ally,  I don't know what there is to "tell".  He's had a lot of sex partners and treats sex very casually.

If you had information that he was a *********,  a rapist,  had fraudulently cleaned out your bank account,  has AIDS,  or something of that nature where it's imperative that she know right away,  that would be something you should tell.

She'll find out this fact that he treats sex casually herself.   And maybe she's fine with that.

[perch101]

I have to agree with specialmom - if you do ring her - she may just think you are bitter and resentful because of the break up. Also -  she will tell your ex about what you said about him so he'll probably just discredit you to her - saying you are making stuff up because your upset at the break up and your bitter because you can't let him go etc.
He'll probably also stress to her that he didn't cheat on you because you had an understanding (when things were 'relaxed' as you put it) that you were both open to meeting other people.

Chalk him up to a learning experience and be glad he's out of your life!

[allyma]

Thanks - this is my first time dealing with someone like this and I have no idea how to handle the morality.  Hearing other people's opinions is a great help.

[specialmom]

Nope.  It is intefering in someone else's life.  Go on and be thankful he is no longer yours!  

good luck