Should i be upset at my boyfriend

[berta707]

I was supposed to stay over my boyfriends house tonight just to spend time with him. My Boyfriend just texted me & said he has bad news but if its ok if we move it to tomorrow night because his bestfriend just called him & is mocing and he needs help. He said he's very sorry and he feels bad but tomorrow which is Friday would be better to stay over.  I want ro knownif I should be upset over it or am I just over reacting. I told him its cool and I understand. But I was kind of upset n didn't tell him... Should I be upset or should not be bcuz its not like he cancelled to go and hangnojt... Please need opinions

[specialmom]

I kind of hope you come back and tell us you had a great evening together!!  

[trish934]

Sounds to me like your more disappointed, and that's absolutely normal! Some men again, they just don't fathom how it breaks a woman's heart these simple things. At least he care for you he still reschedule it :)!

[teko]

I agree with all the above. Nothing further I can think of to add.

[specialmom]

I agree.  Enjoy your evening together tonight!

[Gotmoxy]

Thanks for clarifying. I wouldn't be angry with him then. He sounds like a good friend and a good boyfriend.

[berta707]

Well his bestfriend was waiting to see if he was able to move into a apt. It wasn't ready on the 1st so my boyfriend was on standby waiting to see if the spy was ready so he can help him

[Gotmoxy]

OK, How would he not know that his best friend is moving?? How does something like that just come up? I wouldn't get angry with him, but keep a close eye. That sounds a bit fishy to me.

[Libby2999]

Being "disappointed" would be better but upset is a little too strong.

[specialmom]

Yes, I agree with the others--------- he actually sounds like a nice and thoughtful guy.  And he will be in a great mood to see you tomorrow after your being so nice, and gracious about this whole thing.  You can say when you are with him that you are glad he helped his friend but your feelings were a little hurt because you were excited to see him.  But you understand and it is okay.  You just wanted him to know.  It's okay to be honest------- and being mad is often about being hurt.  So communicate honestly with him but look forward to a night in which you are his ONLY focus!  good luck

[RockRose]

After reading your second post berta I agree that you're overreacting.  If he constantly put you on back burner when anything new came up that would be a different story.  His friend needs him,  and you'll see him Friday.

Best wishes.

[Hypnoash6]

I wouldnt be mad unless he does this alot. If you said its okay then he thinks its okay. If you said no he probably would of still hung out with you. Dont worry about it.

[berta707]

Thank you for your responses. This is the first time he has ever did this to me. He has never rescheduled or cancelled plans with me before. Hes going to help his bestfriend move after he gets out of work at 9pm.We both wake up very early in the morning to go to work so it wouldnt make any sense for me 2 go to his house when hes done helping his friend. I was upset because i'm use to him being cancelling other plans or obligations just 2 be with me, but he decided 2 help his bff. I guess im just overreacting and being a spolied brat. I need to learn how not to get upset easily when things dont go my way because I know sometimes situations come up. Thank you all for responding.

[mami1323]

Even though you might be disappointed it is not a reason to be upset. He's just helping a friend and moving your plans to tomorrow. That's not a big deal. If this is the worst thing that has happened in your relationship then consider yourself lucky. Relax and watch a girlie movie.

[jrobertson20]

Well I would be upset because he broke plans with you to go and hang out.  He should have known that his best friend was moving and needs help.  He could of at least helped him out for a little tonight and then had you come over later.  But at least he made plans with you again tomorrow night so that's good as long as he follows through with it.  If this is not a trend with him though I would try not to get too upset but if it becomes an all the time thing make sure you address it.

[myenzoorka]

Why would you be mad because you have a boyfriend who is generous enough to help a friend in need?  He even apologized to you for delaying your plans!  Based on the story you gave, I would say... yes, you are overreacting.