Should i leave?

[jonesy28560]

My Fiance and i have been together for 6yrs.  I popped the question a year and half ago, prior to her deploying to Korea for the military.  She just got back a few months ago, but things aren't the same.  Prior to her leaving we were a very loving couple.  I mean we had our arguments here and there...but what relationship doesn't.  Since shes been back...she's acting totally different.  One night while she was sleeping i happen to go through her phone, and i seen messages between her and another guy that she meet over in Korea, who now happens to stay 6hrs from us.  The messages were saying how much they love each other, and wanna have sex.  The even exchange naked pics of each other.  When i confronted her about it...she got mad and decide to changed the wedding date for 20 Aug 2011 to whenever, and insisted they were just friends and its just friendly texts.  Now let me fast forward up to April 2011,  Once again i seen she was talkin to this same guy, and they were sending each other very sexual texts, and she even sent him the results from a pregnacy test (Up to this point me and her haven't had sex, since she got back in November 2010), and naked pics of her.  Again i confronted her about it, and she cried an begged me not to go.  Like a fool i stayed.  I have a gut feeling they still talk and doing whatever.  I asked her if she was in Love with me...She said NO not in love, but i do  Love you, not as much as i use too.  Its like she giving up on this what suppose to be a relationship.  Like i mentioned earlier...she got back from her deployment from Korea in November 2010, and up to this point....we only had sex 6x.  She doesn't even tell me she loves me anymore, and won't even let me touch her in any kinda way.  No kisses, no hugs, i mean nothing.  I feel like a straight dummy.  But the thing is I'm really in Love with this woman, and i can't see myself without her, and i wanna spend my life with her.  For the record I'm 30yrs old and she's 27yrs old.  Am i just a sucka for love?  I know i can find someone else, but this girl has got my heart in the palm of her hand.  I don't know what to do.  I need some advice...Leave or Try talking to her to work it out?

[heatherw26]

It's time to move on. It's obvious she's not looking at the relationship for the long term.

[brice1967]

I'm typically a person who believes in second shots, but you've given her a second shot and she has effectively piloted it straight into the ground.  You could give another shot, but the writing is on the wall.  She is making no attempt to prove to you that she is worthy of your love and affection. If there were changes, and dramatic changes at that.... only maybe would I reconsider, but that is just not there.

I feel for you and understand your pain.  I've witnessed this pain, and it is absolutely miserable to watch.  It's time to drop her like a hot rock, and do it that quick and that hard.  One big clear cut and then you are on your way to a recovery and a better life.  Love and respect need to be mutual but this time it is a one way street.

[Kayannaboo]

It sounds to me like ur a good guy and yes u love her but believe it or not sometimes love just aint enough. Think about YOU she's being selfish and latching onto to because YOU are in love with her therefore the relationship is safer. It's good to follow our hearts but sometimes our brains would like to step in and have a try. She is not worth it believe me u r going to look back on the years gone by and realize that u have wasted ur time. She is ok having a good time feeling comfortable y r u suffering ur heart like this???

[THUNDERROAD71]

Should i leave? Answer-YES!

[sweetpea03]

I am sorry to say, but sometimes love is not enough and you really need to move on. She is lying to your face when you have evidence of cheating right there in front of you. Would you really want a marry a woman who can lie to your face like that? I sure hope not, as you deserve a lot better than that. It's time to break up and take some time for yourself. Do things you enjoy and heal from the break up and learn from this relationship as to what to do next time. Wish you all the best.

[RockRose]

jonesy, really,  read your post and pretend you're reading it about a stranger,  not your own story.  This is VERY clear you need to move on.  

[lovemykids465]

Yes,+it's+time+to+let+her+go.+You+are+always+going+to+doubt+her+faithfulness+to+you+if+you+stay+together+and+that+is+a+miserable+way+to+live.

[Aimar]

I would say to break up with her... she clearly told you she is not in love with you any more... She broke the trust... LIke they say they want the cake and eat it too... i feel for you as i feel for my BF we been together for 6yrs engaged too and im the one who has seconds thought but I HAVE NEVER cheated or even talk to a guy... i Show respect to my fiance... He is Wonderful to me and would neve betray him like that... even i have doubts, we have been talking about it and try to work things out... She is emotional cheating on you or physically aswell ... You will find some1 who derserves a great GUY LIKE YOU.... you will be in hurt but better be in pain for moths than a LIFE TIME...

Best wishes to you... be safe.

[Ashelen]

....Honey, leave.

After the first time if she couldn't Woman Up and admit to what she was doing despite the evidence in front of you (racy texts, naked pics).....I would've been ready to pack my bags, if not gone already.

After time #2.....and now saying she's not IN LOVE....this woman is getting your all, and giving nothing in return.

Time to count your losses and go find someone who will treat you right.

I'm quite sorry....I know how heartbroken you must be.