I think it sad when we consider it normal to masterbate and watch porn and then call someone who doesnt get into it a fag. I mean, How sad is that? And for young girls to think that ALL guys are like this and accept it as being part of being male? Now that is sad... I seriously think we have regressed with all this sex stuff of late. I agree with the poster who said it sounds like you have standards, morals, and character. I would take a guy like that any day of the week over a popeyed guy staring at a computer screen and whackin it all the time. I mean really? I say ignore it all and be who you are, and apologize to absolutely no one for it either!.
I think You are perfect!!
Who determines what is "normal"?? Is it the person who thinks YOU are doing something different from what HE"S doing so, therefore, he tells You that YOU are the one who's not "normal"??!! Maybe, just maybe, it's your CHARACTER that is above the norm!!
I DON'T THINK YOU HAVE A LOWER TESTOSTERONE LEVEL THAN OTHER GUYS!!
I THINK YOU HAVE STANDARDS!!
AND MORALS!!
AND CHARACTER!!
and I REALLY want to go on record here as saying I admire Your conviction not to do/be what everyone else "thinks" is the norm in order to look/feel/act "normal". Who the heck has defined "normal"?? -- Is it the person who wants to believe HE is "normal" and thinks everyone else should behave as HE does??
Our society has become VERY permissive/promiscuous - It's all about ME, ME, ME - satisfy ME - gratify ME - often at the expense of others.
I would say to You - that EVERYONE can F*CK and S*CK - what "feels" good in the moment is momentary and even pointless - Your standards are obviously above and beyond that - and I admire that You possess the standard to stand up to Your conviction even in the face of others who say You are not "normal" to want to "get down and get dirty"
THE REWARDS WILL BE YOURS.......WITHOUT THE REGRETS!!
Regards,
Tink
Yahoo Answers isn't the best place to go for serious answers to serious questions.
Here you'll get honesty, brutal at times, but honesty none the less (but respect and politeness at the same time).
You are who you are, and if you don't adhere to the social norms of how one SHOULD or SHOULDN'T act, so be it.
Be true to yourself, my friend.
(Sounds cheesy, I know, but there you go!)
Denny, be true to yourself. If you don't watch porn or masturbate, then you just don't do it. You owe nobody an apology and this doesn't make you weird.
I'd think your girlfriend would be far more concerned with how you treat her and your character rather than if you masturbate or not. Be a gentleman, keep treating the young lady right and don't pass judgement yourself. Be true to you!
Maybe you can't (or should not bother to) convince your girlfriend that you don't masturbate, but you can certainly focus on showing her what a great guy you are, and she'll just think how lucky she is and sooner or later will relax her suspicions that you are looking at other girls and all. It's really nothing to fly off the handle about if she does think you do, since you don't. If you want to be a great boyfriend, listen to what she cares about and stay interested in her concerns, be there for her and watch her back in all situations (especially emotionally). You'll be a great boyfriend and she'll think she's way better off than other girls who have self-centered horndogs for boyfriends. The question of masturbation will not bother her or even come up.
If you are happy with who you are then ignore all these people who calls you names and says these things about you,if they choose to do these things then so do it if people choose not to do it then thats ok too,as for your girlfriend if she truly knows you she will trust you no matter what,just ignore them all your life your choice
Yes, it can be completely normal. You may simply have a lower testosterone level than other guys, OR you may simply have a mind that works a different way. Most men have sexual desires because their body reactions to stimuli (or sometimes nothing) and they react to THAT. However, women generally react to sex mentally first and physically second. Some men do the same thing. That doesn't make you gay, or a freak, and in fact to be honest I think that any girl would be lucky to have you as a boyfriend because most women don't want their husbands masturbating or looking at porn if they're not ok with it.
i think that this girl will just have to come around on her own. i have dated guys before who SWORE they were different...who SWORE they didn't like porn or need to masturbate, but they did...so as a result, I've become wary of believing any guy about that. My husband swore those things when we were dating, but I knew he did. And he does. So the truth is, it's going ot be hard to convince her that you're different and mere words are probably not going to do it. SO just give her time and hopefully she'll come around. Be sensitive, be thoughtful, tell her the things about her that you treasure and hopefully by pointing out the things you value in a woman she'll begin to realize that you think differently.
No, you're not a freak. yes, you're normal.