Spark

[trkergrl]

I have been married 3 times for all the reasons pregnant, money and love/sex and none of them worked. this time i married because we have so much in common. I did not want to marry again because i have a bad track record but he was married one for 35 years( she passed away) and believes in marriage even with my history. We have a wonderful relationship. We are best friends and work partners.  But i have a problem there is no sexual spark for me. The sex is good but have no sexual desire for him. I would rather have sex with Buzz I love sex the more the better. I was just wondering if a marriage can solid without the spark? My girlfriend has been married for over 24 years with no spark but they dont seem very happy and sex is not even a topic in there lives they just dont have any. We have been together for a year and a half and have had a great time. i hope and pray that someone out there can give me some hope on this type of relationship

[mami1323]

My fiance and I have a long history.  Most know about it on this website.  He cheated on me.  So am I really lucky to have him, eh not so lucky.  But we've worked through our issues in counseling.  It's more that he's lucky to still have me...lol.

[trkergrl]

why dont you feel so lucky? thanks for adding me as a friend

[mami1323]

Thank you, lucky, eh...don't feel that way sometimes.  I am for my son.  

[trkergrl]

Thank you very much for your comment. That is what i was hoping for thanks again. Oh yeah you have a beautiful family on your profile. you are a lucky woman.

[mami1323]

There is more to a marriage then just sex.  Although, it is quite important.  You need to focus on all that's good in the relationship.  You can keep the spark alive yourselves.  Just don't let it get boring.  Good luck.

[trkergrl]

thank you for the comments. We have very good communication which is something i have nerver had he knows about the spark. He is open to using toys etc to let me finish.  Yes i agree it is attitude. Yes i have run from things my whole life my best friiend says im a runner. Everytime something is not right i want to leave. But i make myself stay th and work things out. They are never bad enough to run just my mind thinks it is. When i dont run our relationship gets stronger. thanks for all the good comments

[teko]

People get married and stay married for a variety of reasons. Sex is important in a marriage yes, but sometimes it is our attitude that keeps us distant. Talk with your partner openly about what you like and dislike. If sex is a very high priority for you, then no you probably will not make this marriage work unless you can figure out what the problem is and how to cure it.

[imanaddict]

I guess the answer to your question will lie with your partner. If he is okay with it, then it might work, but not sure for how long. Do you only have an issue with your partner, or sex in general? If it's just your partner, you may want to reconsider going forth with this relationship. I hope you find the answer you're looking for!

[jo929]

yes you do have a track record, and it does not sound so good one of these days you are going to have to stop and think, just what do i want and where am i going, no one can tell you what to do about this marriage, this is one thing decision that you are going to have to make by yourself, it does sound like you are running from something, you may be better off single who knows.   luck  jo