Strip Clubs Ok or No way?

[megochick101]

I'm asking this question because me and my husband had a discussion about strip clubs after watching something on the tv the other day(not porno lol). He feels there is nothing wrong with someone going to one, whereas I think that if someone in a relationship goes to a strip club they are essentially cheating on their partner, and I wouldn't let my hubby go under any circumstances. I just wanted to hear from other woman, and men too please,to get some other perspective on the issue.

So how do you feel about your partner going to strip clubs?(without you I should add)

Thanks in advance :)

[FreddieBlaqe]

I agree with you, I do not believe anyone who is in a committed relationship or married should be going to strip clubs. Why go if you have all you need at home. That is why they have things called bachelor and bachelorette parties, to get it out of your system. But once you are married you need not be in those places. Those are places for single people to party and have fun, but, that is just my opinion.

[swsunshine]

I wouldn't like the idea at all of my husband going to a strip club, especially without me. I would never know if he was cheating on me or not. I basically have the same opinion as you.

[adgal]

I am fine with it.  I have actually been with him and his friends, and other male friends, and for the most part it is pretty boring. They seem to sit around and drink more then watch the actual strippers.  Our rule is no laps dances, and he respects that.  In all honesty, the only time he ever goes is bachelour parties....I think it take the fun out of it for them when their wife has no problem with it....lol.

[thelittlethings]

Megochick101:
I wouldn't want my man going.  It wouldn't bug me so much just him being there but I know his friends would be buying him lap dances and stuff.  I don't want some other girl dancing on my man.  And not only do they dance but they sit and talk dirty in their ear.  That's just way too far.  My man doesn't need to be talking dirty with some other girl.  And most strippers will have sex with the guys as long as they pay enough.  My friend owns a strip club and all the strippers will sleep with the guys for 50 bucks.  They are pretty dirty.  When he came home there would always be that lingering question in the back of my mind wondering if he paid the extra 50 bucks to get some.  I know he never would, but it'd still always be in the back of my mind.  Strip clubs are cheating.

j7653:
I am sure your wife cares more than she lets on.  A lot of women like to be the "cool wife" and we figure men want us to be ok with them going.  She probably just plays it off that it doesn't bug her.  But deep down I am sure it would hurt her if you went, even if she won't admit it.  She is probably just saying that for you... she doesn't wanna come off as controlling.

[PromisedLand]

I have no desire whatsoever to go to one, so my wife doesn't have to worry about that...I think I OD'd on the things back when I was 21 (I'm 58 now)...it's been at least 30 years since I was in one with a friend while we were on a business trip.


Jim

[BearHitch]

This has never been an issue in our relationship as my husband has absolutely no interest in going and wouldn't go to a bachelor party if that is what was going to be going on.  In fact, his brothers tricked him into going to a strip club for his bachelor party and he refused to go in - he ended up sitting in the car watching Scar Face on their flip down TV until one of the guys got thrown out.  Either way I wouldn't be okay with him going because I don't really see the point of watching that if it is not to lust and get turned on... which then I think crosses a line.  Luckily I don't have to deal with it!  :)