I am a SWF, never married, no kids, come from an average-sized family. My parents are married still over 40 years.
I've never been arrested, imprisoned. I am not an abuser, party-girl, recovering addict, alcoholic or drug abuser.
I am very wholesome-looking, average in my looks.
I am very, very pure & almost prudish when it comes to sexuality b/c as a fat woman, I am not sexy, it's disgusting but, reality.
I have weird sexual fetishes (too many to list) & have a profile on a fetish site (living an opposite life).
I am a college graduate, have a career & live w/ a male roommate (we've been friends for years).
I am 5'4", 253 lbs., and a professional-preppy dresser.
I was engaged in 1998 but, my ex-fiancee' died the same year we were to marry (he died in March, we were to marry in December sadly though, he passed-away from a heart-attack).
I have been out on countless dates from friends, colleagues, family members.
I was involved w/ church activities, slowed-down a bit now.
I volunteered in the community but, slowed-down that too b/c of work, I am in 2 units.
I took a cooking classes to meet men, at a local technical schoool
I am a member of meetup.com, 55 groups but, nothing happened when I attended events relating to some groups but, I do not like going alone b/c I am TOO shy.
So, it's not like I've not tried getting myself out in the community.
I have been on these dating sites: POF, eharmony, match, some fetish sites (!), american singles, lavalife, chemistry, true, christian singles, singlesnet, bigpeople.org.uk, zoosk & many, many band forums (morrissey-solo.com, bunnymen.com, u2.com, neworder.com, lwtua.com, etc.
So, it's not like I have not tried dating websites....
I have also "sworn it all off" meaning, I took a break, removed profiles & just lived life not caring about if I would ever be loved, etc.
I have toyed with my cynicalism whether or not I would be involved in the dating field again.
I even joined a group to see if I was "pre-destined" for marriage.
I have fought with the ideas in my mind about having kids & marrying.
I have also had a life-coach try to assist me in cleaning up my appearance, to make me more sexy with men, that was a big joke however!!! I am not changing myself for nobody...
So, my question to you, is if you were in my shoes...
Do you think I am not meant for marriage/love?
I am not talking about kids either. I probably won't have kids b/c, I am not a "motherly" type but, I spoil my nephews/neice.
I even toyed w/ the idea maybe I should become a nun since, I have not had love, sex or any form of physicality now in 8 years. I think something is definetly wrong with me in that field..What do you think?
When I say too shy, I don't even want to go to places alone or if I do, I feel weirded-out.
I am not into big parties, clubs, bars, the shore scene. I rather go to other places like art museums, galleries, restaurants or just have quiet movie/cooking nights at home. I just have a really shy personality but, I am still fun.
One further note: I want to move to the UK. It's been my "dream" since I was 12. I am trying to locate websites (what would I type in my search engine as words to search) that would be for me as an American woman that wants to meet a man from the UK?
Is my head in the clouds & should I give-up?
Where would I "start"?
I thought Facebook would help me, yeah right.
I thought band forums on English bands with us fans corresponding would help me, yeah right.
So, should I just throw-in the towel or seriously go back out there even if I am really "too shy"?