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Too young to be serious?

Long story short I am 20 years old and have been in a relationship with a guy for 2 years now.  I do love him and we have talked about a future together, a lot.  When things first started they were great, it was really fun and we both were happy.  But as of late I just feel bored.  There's nothing new and exciting.  Our sex life almost feels bland and scheduled.  And we spend half of our time together in petty arguments.  A good friend of mine who i have always found attractive has come back into my life, a part of me can't help to want to be with him.  So i guess my question is, am i settling down too soon? Or should I spend these younger years of my life out having fun and finding out want i could really want later on? I'd hate to destroy what I have because I love him so much and we work so well together and i'd never ever want to hurt him but I also don't want to feel like i've committed myself to someone too soon in my life and miss out on other love opportunities that could enter my life. Do i continue this relationship or no?
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End the relationship. Because if you have to publicly ask this question it's bound to not work for you. You can't ask "am I too young?" Just because you're 20 doesn't mean you can hop around from male to make figuring what's fun and what's not. I don't mean sexually either, I'm just saying age doesn't defy anything. There's 40 year olds who can't settle because of real issues like infertility or infidelity. Not.. "This is getting to be a boring routine"

This is probably why relationships these days don't get far. Lack of real communication.

There's no real issues here except the fact that you're getting curious as to how it might be with a different person, I already see that as a no-go.

I have a really good friend of mine who has been with her partner for 10 years and she is barely 21. If that's not young then I don't know what is.
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Do what your heart tells you. But also remember the grass isn't always greener on the other side.. maybe the other guy is attractive. And he might seem new and exciting to you but would he love you like your boyfriend does? Every relationship takes work but you both have to be willing to work at it together.
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