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Vagina streching

I had boyfriend for 4 years alomt. I lost my virginity with him. We had sex alomst three times a week. However, sometimes we would not have sex for month or so. We broke up in July. I have not slept with anyone since then. I am meeting this guy for marriage in November end. Please let me know if he will be able to tell that i am loose or not. Also, how long does it take to get back tight again. If not completely then atleast to some point. Is there a way to get muscle tight again. I am really afraid that he will figure out. According to my family I am not suppose to have sex before wedding. I am really scared please help me


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940642 tn?1336063511
First of all your vagina goes back to its normal size.  Second, do Kegels as someone above suggested.  Do them a lot.  You can google it to find out how.
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991610 tn?1249323734
I am a cancer survivor of anal cancer.  Treatment included radiation which affected my vaginal canal.  I now have a scar tissue in the middle making my vaginal canal hour glass shaped.  My new boyfriend cannot penetrate past the scar tissue.  What can I do go open the scar tissue up and back to the normal size?
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568659 tn?1256139982
If this is an arranged marriage you obviously can do what giraffe said and tell him the truth. Do what trezzure said and just fake it, act like you did when you actually lost your virginity. Not all women bleed their first time, I didn't. I did however bleed if my b/f was rough for the first year or so.
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568812 tn?1379165794
Not all women bleed when the hymen is broken, besides, you could have easily broken it during some sort of exercise...etc, its a thin bit of skin so its not hard to break it.

I mean no disrespect but i think some cultures put FAR too much pressure on young girls, sex is part of human nature and not always easy to repress. And no-one should be afraid to do what they want to do, as long as it isnt hurting anyone.

You could try pelvic floor muscle exercises...just tightening your muscles around that area and holding them for about 10 seconds then letting go...then repeat for a few times every day.
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100019 tn?1335919717
You guys are forgetting about that little piece of hymen that gets broken the first time.  If you are truly intent on deceiving this man then when you are finished the first night you need to have a razor blade or something sharp nearby and when he isn't looking or around nick yourself on the thigh so you will bleed.

Blood left on the sheets is the best way to deceive.  And no, I don't have experience I've just read about women from different cultures doing this so their arranged marriage husbands don't find out the truth.  Which in some cultures is reason enough for death to the girl.
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Just be honest with him and tell him you slept with another guy before you dated him.

The vagina adjusts to whatever is placed inside of it. You should be as tight now as you were before. Best of luck.
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Which culture are you in? Do kiegels, exercise. and if you are really worried some plastic surgeons might be able to help.
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484465 tn?1532214032
just don't say anything about it to anyone.  there's no way he could know if you just faked it and pretended like it hurt and this was your first time.  tell him to please take it slow

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