West Valley Latina, my parents are hispanic, hubby is white. They hate him.

[thatgirl1967]

I come from a very large Cathoilc family, and my parents wanted me to marry a nice Latin boy, but I didn't want that. Now my parents won't speak to me and I don't know what to do. It's been too long!
Any ideas?

[sparkeler]

Your parent's gave you life but it's YOUR LIFE.  Now, if they are willing to disown you over somebody that you choose to be with, then it's them that need help.  You can try to make it work, but something tells me that you will have to end your relationship in order to do so.  My suggestion to you is to simply say, "I love you mom and dad, and if you choose not to speak to me over this, then you are going to potentially miss out on the greatest moments of my life."  It makes me want to cry when I think of parents who could even fathom the idea of terminating there relationship w/their own child because of their own prejudices or racial standards.  It's your life and you follow your heart.  I wish you lots of love and happiness.

[oceans3]

yes, i guess the only thing.... is for your parents to get to know him!! thats the only way. then they will see what you see in him. its just they dont understand the culture. hopefully he will be on his good boy behavior and hopefully your rents will be receptive to meeting with him on occassion. take things slow. dont go throwing him / forcing him into their lives. talk about him. talk about the nice things he did/said, have him chit chat on the phone with them. meet up for dinner. it should work out but its one of those things thats going to take TIME. certainly not an over night fix.

[siren of the sea]

unfortunatly there isnt anything i can tell you that will change your parent minds. i guess they are "old world" and have their expectations. i am white. and some of my hispanic friends married white men. they were accepted though. hopefully he treats you well and your family will see this and give him a chance. unfortunatly some people arent comfortable dating or marrying outside their race. if that is their choice so be it but its sad that you are outcasted like this. maybe youcan invite them over for dinner and hubby can make a good impression on them. im sure once grandchildren come into play they will change a bit, but if their mind is made up y;ou have to deal with it as poopy as it is! sorry this is the way it is but im sure for many biracial couples they deal with it as well!