What is love?

[she90]

This is a big question but i want people's opinions of it.
My boyfriend thinks it's commitment, not a feeling. I think it's both.
It's causing conflict at the moment, as i'm his first relationship and we have been best friends before we got together.
If there is no feeling, isn't that just the same as only being friends or what?
It's starting to get to me because I feel a lot for him, and with that automatically comes commitment, because I think of him before i decide to do things and how they affect him.
He says he is more logical, and will make a decision and feel later. Is that normal?
He doesn;t think to text me or talk to me through out the day, we are in a long distance relationship which makes it harder to be apart, but he doesn't think to simply give me a text,see how my days going.I'm the one who feels i'm making all the effort.
He's started talking about babies, about male and female blood types not being compatible, as ours aren't. he's really concernd about it, but I know there are injections and easy ways around it, even my mum had the same thing.
He has a 3 year plan, to get engaged one year,married the next, and kids the next. I feel like that's my future all mapped out, It's like he likes the idea of all this and not me.That's why i question if he loves me because it seems im the one having to fit into his life, not fit into eachothers lives.
It's hard to get this across to him, coz he gets offeneded because im unsure he loves me.
Is this a make or break in our relationship?
We are christians and have read verses about love, i know it doesnt mention romance, but it does mention caring and deeper love,. We've only beeen together for 2 months, and he feels our honeymoon stage is over and nw he wants to gt down to business, we live in different cities tho, its hardly a normal set up to gt to know eachother on a couple basis if he wanted to gt engaged.it sounds so forced, like hes had this plan for year and he wants a wife, not me as his wife.
we are 9 years a apart and that's now starting to show.
any advice wouldbe great.

[she90]

Thanks for advice so far,
He googled it, so it got me more worried, just for offspring, all you need is an injection so it's not even a big deal.
I've open up to him, and i'll see hi this eve so I want to be honest to him and work thru this, i am serious about us, but I still want us to take our time, there shouldn;t be pressure or rushing in a relationship right?

[thehitman357]

Men are logical more so than women. However, each time I was in love, I felt it.  I wanted to find out how the girl was doing through out the day.  Long distance relationships are hard.  In my humble opinion, it is beter to date someone and get to know him or her. You cannot do this in your situation.  It sounds like he may not be into you.  I really don't know.  I just know that I felt love. Good luck.

[specialmom]

Hi.  Well, you have only been dating two months.  This is not a long time.

I'll be honest.  I think you are jumping the gun with these types of deep conversations.  You and he need to relax and enjoy each other's company and not "THINK" so much.  Just because you were friends does not mean you go from 0 to 10 when dating.  I think that you need to express to him that you two do need to move slowly and get to know each other as romantic partners.  

I'm all for knowing what you want but think his plan needs to have flexibility for what happens in life added in.  And I'm also a big fan of waiting some time before having kids as it is  special time for a married couple to enjoy before kids enter the picture.  I think you should solidify yourself as a married couple, stregthen the foundation, etc. before kids.  Put it to you this way, we traveded bunched before kids and now haven't gone anywhere but to a cottage on the lake.  I treasure that carefree time in which we could do what we want pre kids.   Great memories!  I think couple's really need that.  So maybe one year is good but maybe you'll just take more time than that.  And when you make a plan for how your life will go with a partner . . . well, it is nice to consult the partner about what they desire, right?  Anyway, the definition of love:

Love is not a feeling or a committment but committment is closer to the definition in my opinion.  It is what you do for someone.  It is a verb.  

And how on earth do you know your blood types aren't compatible, by the way?

So slow it down a bit and just enjoy each other.  The honeymoon stage shouldn't be over in 2 months!  It is a sad thing when that is over-----------  it is so fun!!  Don't rush it!  good luck