Hi Brice. One thing that is very very therapeutic is to spend some time thinking of your dad. First, write a letter about your hurt growing up. Acknowledging this is freeing. Then burn that letter. Then, write a letter that is your love letter. Make it as long or as short as you need to. That is one you may take to his grave and read. Or just read it in your own head. Also freeing. It acknowledge that he did hold an important place in your life. Hang onto that letter but put it away somewhere special.
I'm a firm believer in seeking peace of heart. We evolve over time and I'm a firm believer in taking responsibility for ourselves when we need to and cutting ourselves slack when we need to.
So, peace to everyone's heart.
Honestly, I wasn't sure what to do with this post either. It didn't so much as hit me hard as I thought it was some kind of poem?? Anyway, glad Brice got it!
Thank you for the kind words. It's not so much that I have regrets concerning the loss of my grandparents, it is the thought of the time I could have spent with them but elected to do something else. I just feel as if I didn't show them enough respect or something.
My relationship with my dad was pretty difficult. In my adulthood the dynamics of the relationship changed. Although we became pretty good friends, I feel as if he lacked respect for me. I use the fact that I was cut out of his will as reinforcement concerning the respect issue. With that said, I knew when my kids were born what needed to be done and what couldnt be done. I am a better parent for it, and for that I am thankful.
The question was clearly stated
"What will you do? Talk OR walk with regrets?" thanks for asking
You are one of the only few here to answer this. I suspect too many are hit-to hard-full force with this. And thus, fail to even think twice. In respect to losing someone we feel we've been left with regrets-it's time to stop regretting and think positive over that trial. Man if I let the misdeeds in life remain hiding as a mistake I'd never rest another night. I really believe if we learn and become more compassionate towards other-THEN IT CAN NO LONGER BE CALLED ERR/REGRET. And that's my final though. Hugs
Thanks so much for commenting on this post, I think that says a lot about your comfort and respect for things/people in life
I like this, and it is all too true. I've had the misfortune of almost ruining the most important relationship in my life, but am thankful that I have the opportunity to still be in that relationship. In regards to this relationship, too much is not enough. We still have ourselves and aren't necessarily too co-dependant.... but our relationship evolved into something much deeper than love and friendship. It reached a level that I never knew, and I know that I don't want to lose that. We enjoy life together, with our kids, to the fullest. Even the simple things like spending time together mean so much. Life is fragile, and time flies.
My dad had a good buddy who would never say goodbye at the end of a phone conversation or even a face to face visit. I asked him about that once, and he told me that goodbye was forever. Anything that sounded like a finalization was not in his vocabulary. A typical conclusion to a conversation with Tony was, "all right".... then click! I didn't get that for a while, but now in my mid forties.... I kind understand and appreciate that idea.
With my grandparents gone and my dad passed away, I realize that I never said I love you enough or conveyed my feelings towards them enough. That is one of 3 regrets in my life that I have a hard time dealing with, but I deal with those feelings because I cannot change them.
I'm not sure if there is a response needed, a general question, or general post here . . .