Well, he's not "some men," he is a man who is probably manic depressive. In other words, don't paint "men" with a broad brush, he is a particular case. I hope you are able to part ways easily.
I would agree with Annie on this one, he is fitting a lot of bipolar symptoms. The erratic moods and the careless spending are all traits. However I'm sorry you got your feelings hurt. The only thing I could suggest is you really put your foot down and tell him its best you don't see eachother and that the only way you could see this friendship/relationship continuing is if he made an appointment with his doctor about his mood. If you don't want to continue the friendship I completely understand, bipolar is a notoriously difficult type of depression for the sufferer and close friends and family.
I hope all picks up for you soon and all these hardships become a distant memory. Wish you all the best.
Hi there and welcome. I'm not sure if he is manic depressive as some people can just be super moody and change quickly . . . but either way, it is hard to live with. We date for a very important reason dear. We are supposed to look critically at the person we are with and judge whether or not they are going to be good to go to the next level with. And when we see something that would pose a challenge, then we are supposed to move on. Not everyone we date are we supposed to end up with. And something like a person that goes from happy to mad in a minute and his mad is alarming in nature, is not a keeper.
You'd be setting yourself up for a difficult life. And when we are vetting someone to be a long term partner, we must look seriously at those things. Some people have annoying little habits or things we don't always love about them. No one is perfect. But that is different than a personality trait that is so up and down. And that it is like this now in the easy dating phase . . . imagine what it would be like under big stress that all couples face from time to time.
I would cut your losses and just remain friends with him. Move on to a more peaceful person. good luck
Human behavior in general is a result of their lifes experiences. We are all unique. Friendship consists of being there when they need us and if he is bothering you then he is not your friend.
Well.....there is no need to try and diagnose what he is and really no one else can except a "qualified" professional. Could be a person that just loves drama or conflict.
Sounds like nothing fun and peaceful to deal with and I would recommend you cut your losses.
All the best.
Thank you to everyone who responded. I'm just going to cut ties with him, I can't keep fronting the bill for the things we do only for him to turn around all of a sudden have money to spend. The mood swings are so dramatic and over the top, not to mentioned the new thing this whole weekend is to basically post status updates and tweets that are obviously about me but he's being all passive aggressive about it so he will be deleted from all forums. Friendship or a relationship shouldn't cause this much chaos or stress. Thanks everyone for your input, greatly appreciated.
No. Absolutely not. Relationships don't hurt! They may have their moments that are stressful. That's normal but I think you've got enough red flags here to decide to be free of this.
I do wish you the best. Please come back and let us know what happens. peace
This is true, I shouldn't be feeling this hurt, or stressed. Well here is an update, he had nothing to say, never asked how I was feeling being sick this weekend and the only evidence he was even still around, was one tweet he just put out, stating he had an amazing day with another girl. Wow, so yeah that pretty much seals the deal with this guy being a total jerk. Guess I should just choke it up to another life lesson learned. I just can't believe he didn't get his way one time and all this happened. Oh well let him go drive someone else up a wall. Thank you all for helping me. Not sure why I feel hurt over all of this, I should be glad this showed me his true colors early, still hurts though. Thanks everyone.
Well, hurting our feelings a bit is natural. Remember that YOU are the lucky one to be rid of him sweetie. now you can find a good guy to be with. take some time to get over this and then start meeting people again. Hang in there. We're here if you need us!
you are totally right. thanks for being so supportive :) i'll keep you posted, but yeah you're right at least i'm rid of him.