I have been with my fiance now for two years. We never argue, we both work full-time jobs and don't get to see each other much during the week. Since we first started dating he doesn't seem to have much of a libido, our usual is once a month. It makes me feel insecure, I mean he's in his twenties...shouldn't he be wanting it all the time?! I have asked him numerous times if it is something about me that he isn't attracted to and he says no, that he just doesn't have a sex-drive. The thing is, he looks at porn on the net and such, but yet he wont come to me for anything. I am not an unattractive girl, I am happy with myself, so this is kind of putting a dent in my self-esteem. I just don't understand it, he doesn't come home complaining of stresses at work, or anywhere else in his life. He says he is happy in our relationship which seems to be true, and I know he isn't cheating...he doesn't have the time. How do I make him see that this really hurts me, that I need more from him. Not just in the sex area, but in the passion area as well. There is no passion in our relationship. I love him, he loves me and we are planning to get married...so what's the problem?!