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Why do i still lone for my ex husband

I miss him but dont know if he miss me i think about him all the time does he think of me the dreams seem real will we ever be together again then I don't won't to hurt the person im with because i know im love but why do i lone for my ex and he been gone for 6 years or more im i crazy i believe I wasn't mature enough at the time i dont know i felt like he loved me and some days i didn't but i do know im love by the one im with now but it crazy because how i was done by my ex i do with the person im with now far as being controlling i have gotten better my partner tells me almost everyday i like your new attitude and the way im changing and i just smile wishing my partner was my ex and when my partner ask me do i miss my ex i told the truth at first but 2year later i was ask again and i lied fear of not having anyone
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973741 tn?1342342773
Sorry you are going through this.  I'd say first that you need to exit your current relationship.  So not fair to hang onto a guy that you wish were your ex and your ex were him.  This just will never work and it's unkind to keep him stuck with someone who doesn't love him the way he deserves. So, do the right thing there and let him go.  It is okay to be on your own, I promise.  And being on our own will make you stronger and better able to pick a good partner in the future.

It's natural to have regrets and at times longing for an ex boyfriend. Six years later seems to me though to be based on a kind of false idea.  The thoughts of him are a relfection of your current unhappiness perhaps.  

I would let your current partner go and possibly do some therapy to understand why you are sort of 'stuck' yourself in the past.  The idea and thoughts of an ex 6 years ago might be you trying to put a band aid on some things currently going on that you're not content with.  

Again, I'm sorry you feel this way.  And I hope you can get past this soon so you can start living happily in the present.  good luck
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Before I can even answer this question I need to know a few more facts. Why did you and your ex split up?
Do you have any children together? Do you see him often or not? And have you cheated on your new boyfriend with your ex?
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