It's difficult to say exactly what that meant. I find that people text, say or do things at that time of night and especially if they have been drinking and/or out with friends that are more in the "heat of the moment" without really thinking about what they are saying and/or doing. Alcohol and/or other people are usually influences in these situations.
I thought you both were meeting after this two week break to discuss things? That would be ideal vs. her sending texts @ 1am stating she misses you. If she had texted "I miss you and want to see you tomorrow" that would be something different, but she didn't do that.
If she doesn't reply, I would take that as being the situation I described above meaning the next morning came and she realized it was a mistake to text you/contact you.
If she contacts you and says she wants to meet then you still might have some chance at this.
Just a quick update.
She texted me lastnight about 1am while she was clubbing with her girlfriends. It said 'I miss you'. I read it in the morning when I woke up but I was not going to reply. I ended up replying about 6 hours later saying 'You too, do you want to sort this out sooner?' but no reply yet.
I know I shouldn't have! What do you think?
Thanks for the words of wisdom. I think VICourageous were the most comforting mainly because of the 'it could go both ways' thing which i guess is what i realy wanted to hear. It has been okay so far even though it has only been 3 days :( i just have so much to tell her, so much on my mind so i have been writing it down for when we next make contact. I also had a talk to one of her girlfriends who is also a mutual friend because i dont really have anyone to talk to in real life. The talk went well and i think it made me feel alot better but it has all been very up and down. Who knows.. maybe this is just a stepping stone to a stronger relationship and will be future hope to those that are going through the same thing :)
Thankyou again everyone and I will keep you updated.
Agree with RockRose......exactly.
At ages 20 and 22 there really is no way to have your whole life all figured out and that include choosing a lifetime partner. Moreover, I don't think you should be in a hurry to do this either at your ages.
I would take her not being sure and finding less time for you as signs a romantic relationship isn't priority for her at this time in her life. She could be struggling with trying to figure out how to tell you directly that she wants out.
My guess would be when you meet again after two weeks this will be over for good.
I don't think there is nothing to "rekindle," but the fact you both are growing into adults and taking different paths......you both are maturing. Taking a romantic relationship from your teens years to adulthood is usually not successful.
I don't think this is a common path for a relationship that ends up working out.
You sound like a reasonable, rational guy and I trust you that what you're observing - that she's distancing herself and making you less a priority - is an accurate picture of what's going on.
I also don't think 20 is old enough for her to make a life decision of a partner - and I don't believe in living together and having kids outside of marriage.
So. In my opinion, the way you "move a relationship forward" at this point in a relationship is to begin talking about marriage in the future, and discussing your goals in life to see if they're compatible.
Best wishes. I think it's likely that when you begin speaking with each other again, the relationship will deteriorate quickly.
i think the break is a good decision you've made bcz both of u will sit back n think without pressure n hopefuly things will get better between u two.the trip is a very goid idia (its on my birthday aswell lol) that gives u more time n space n she will realise that u should move forward in ur relationship.wish u all the best
I also forgot to mention that I have booked a small trip to the coast and we are staying in a nice resort/apartment for a week on December the 1st. I am not sure after the break if she will still want to but I have been excited about this for a long time because I thought it would be nice to finally spend some time together alone and maybe we could re-kindle what we once had?
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